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| such conditions. The first is a tendency to moralize -- with yourself and therefore also with others | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| ready-made rules, and the moment you do you moralize. Any kind of goodness that comes from this | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| fear your imperfections, the more stringently you will moralize. The more demanding the standards of your idealized | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| fail to forgive yourself for this imperfection. You moralize with yourself. You find yourself bad, wrong, even | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you have an unforgiving attitude that makes you moralize with yourself for falling short of perfection. Discover | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| up to your stringent standards you continue to moralize with yourself. It is very important that you | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| which you are unwilling to face, makes you moralize with yourself and others. It is very difficult | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| You want to hear me say that you moralize so you can continue holding on to a | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| discovery cannot and should not be used to moralize and force the need away. This would only | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| be directed to go beyond your tendency to moralize and to focus instead on what is true | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| I repeat: this cannot be done if you moralize with yourself. Constant self-moralizing, which often happens in | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| needs justification, you must condemn, or judge, or moralize. There can really be no justifying without moralizing | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| to recognize and then stop the tendency to moralize with oneself, to understand the harm of perfectionism | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| point out that you must not judge or moralize with yourself, because such self-moralizing was a hindrance | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| right, good, or superior one is. When you moralize, you always need to prove something. To whatever | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| is often deemed laziness, and about which you moralize as if it were that, is therefore to | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
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| you do not approach your unconscious with a moralizing attitude. Your unconscious does not like it and | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| -- for the unconscious does not like a moralizing attitude -- at this point, once the bare | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| the spirit world do not judge in a moralizing way; we do not punish. All that is | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| work of self- search without judging yourself, without moralizing, and without evaluating the right and the wrong | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| your inner findings in a spirit of guilt-producing moralizing before you have reached a sufficiently deep level | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| I do not use the word in a moralizing, blaming, admonishing way, but philosophically. It indicates one | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| blessed, be in peace, be in God. 90. MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS Greetings, my dearest | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| yourself and therefore also with others. Often such moralizing does not appear outwardly at all. In fact | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| outwardly the very opposite may appear. But inward moralizing exists to some extent in all human beings | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| For if you expect impossible standards of yourself, moralizing is a necessary result. I wish to show | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| result. I wish to show you how such moralizing stifles the living spirit of the good and | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| it possible to change these harmful tendencies. This moralizing tendency may exist in many subtle forms, even | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| those who appear outwardly quite rebellious against all moralizing laws and rules. Whatever words you use to | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| shall also discuss. What is the meaning of moralizing? Offhand you may ask, What is wrong with | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| and causes you to have a stringent, rigid, moralizing attitude about yourself whenever a crisis brings the | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| in some form or other, which always brings moralizing in its wake. This phenomenon may often be | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| by borrowing ready-made rules. This condition produces the moralizing attitude and all the rigidity that is tied | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| feelings you had been unaware of, like the moralizing attitude. You will also discover how you experience | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| immaturity, and ill-health, but it especially creates the moralizing attitude and the disproportionate emotional reactions, although consciously | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| until they finally disappear. These three issues of moralizing, disproportionate reactions, and needs, remain to be found | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| vicious one. QUESTION: What is the difference between moralizing and righteousness? ANSWER: It depends how the words | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| it, they think of self-righteousness, of the very moralizing character I have discussed. In fact, this usage | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| false goodness, a forceful, insincere one, produces a moralizing that many people rebel against. Genuine goodness, coming | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| first place, let us distinguish between morality and moralizing. These are not the same. In the second | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| connected with expecting too much and therefore with moralizing. I might add here that the very people | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| they cannot distinguish between true morality and self-righteous moralizing -- are often those most strongly afflicted with | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| then dispense with the practice of false, rigid moralizing. Whoever thought that my discussion contained the message | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| lecture, before the question came in, the word moralizing. Now, you used morality. It also seems to | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| seems to be that what you now term moralizing has a different flavor from what you previously | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| a different flavor from what you previously called moralizing, or self- righteousness. How can I know when | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| to the question, between living morality and lifeless moralizing. Moreover, I explicitly stated that all truths brought | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| according to these great truths indicates neither false moralizing nor true morality based on inner growth, which | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| what is right and true. QUESTION: But about moralizing, you said that everything is a rigidity. ANSWER | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| believe that I implied every moral act is moralizing and rigid. All I invited you to do | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| your disapproval of these trends. This is the moralizing I'm talking about. Moreover, such moralizing seldom applies | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| is the moralizing I'm talking about. Moreover, such moralizing seldom applies to crass issues, but rather to | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| evaluated simply in terms of good or bad. Moralizing also manifests when, emotionally at least, everything is | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| inside of you. And this denial leads to moralizing. Your confusion arises from feeling that awareness of | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| I do. But I still don't see where moralizing comes in. ANSWER: When one judges a whole | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| judges a whole for only a part, then moralizing occurs. When the whole becomes black due to | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| black trends, or white for that matter, then moralizing occurs. When issues are experienced in terms of | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| are experienced in terms of good or bad, moralizing occurs. There is so much leeway, so much | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| of my ability. QUESTION: I am confused about moralizing with myself regarding certain superstitions. On the one | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| me, on the other, I now know that moralizing is not good either. ANSWER: In your work | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| conscience which derives from the idealized self. The moralizing I discussed is a part of this latter | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your self-accounting you have discovered that negative motivations, moralizing, and the idealized self happen to want the | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| acknowledge and understand all distortions -- without self- moralizing -- you do the best to purify yourself | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| guilt feelings on the one hand, and your moralizing tendency and idealized self-image on the other, make | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| relaxed will. If the will is coupled with moralizing judgments, it turns destructive because truth becomes inaccessible | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| really help unless you face what is, without moralizing about anyone, but just accepting your immaturity, and | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| understanding will also help the child. Understanding without moralizing. QUESTION: Is there such a thing as numerology | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| what is in you, and accept yourself without moralizing. Do not ignore these tools, but use them | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| moralize. There can really be no justifying without moralizing. Then ask yourself clearly, what is it exactly | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| standards. As long as shame and pride induce moralizing and justifying, you cannot grow out of the | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| look at confusion without compulsion, without haste, without moralizing, without denial, then you can hope for the | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| grow out of it. Slaying suggests compulsion, haste, moralizing -- so that cannot be the way. Haven't | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| real? If you look at yourself calmly without moralizing, without justifying, without complaining or resenting, then you | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| constantly interrupted by your ingrained habit of hiding, moralizing, and justifying. You may succeed once, but then | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| this chain of events within, abstaining from perfectionism, moralizing, and justifying, the pain instantly recedes, although the | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| within; on his willingness to dispense with justification, moralizing, rationalizing, intellectualizing. All that you know. You have | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| question, you will discover the emotional dependency and moralizing character underlying it. Moralizing with yourself (what should | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| the emotional dependency and moralizing character underlying it. Moralizing with yourself (what should be our attitude? Is | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| be our attitude? Is it a fault?), and moralizing with others. As I often say, you cannot | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| of defenses; the harm of a self-righteous or moralizing attitude with yourself and with others; the harm | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| understand its nature, and see it without false moralizing and justification, you will want to change. Mature | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| other hand, I emphasize how dangerous perfectionism, self-condemnation, moralizing, and false guilt feelings are. You see, my | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| time has now come when the difference between moralizing and the desire to transform yourself should be | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| and this understanding is what really counts. Judging, moralizing, and perfectionism occur when values are based on | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| or impress others, to conform with outer standards. Moralizing always tends to show to others how right | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| always need to prove something. To whatever extent moralizing exists, it exists only for the sake of | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| and admire it or not. False, damaging, tortured moralizing and self-accusation always hides a deep inner insistence | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| a deep inner insistence not to change. Hence, moralizing is a tortured inner movement; recognizing the fault | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| to give up his or her negative trend, moralizing brings more negativity in its wake, even though | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| danger of closing the door through your damaging moralizing. Your freedom in this respect will set the | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| look for the cause in a limited or moralizing way. The way you may contribute to the | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| seen not as a shackle imposed by a moralizing outer or inner authority, but as a freely | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| found in old taboos and denials, nor in moralizing judgments about this creative force, neither is it | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |