| Provocations................10 | |
| the incarnation takes place in an environment where provocations to that image are bound to occur, perhaps | 38 IMAGES |
| you cannot recognize your desire for unhappiness, your provocations in that direction -- and it is of | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| the other to utopia. Passions are aroused and provocations compounded to enlarge the respective spheres of influence | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| own house in order. Will we then eliminate provocations in the other person? ANSWER: You do not | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| sufficiently until you finally will cease bringing on provocations and will in turn not be provoked by | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| this way, your hostility will vanish and your provocations will too. Relapses will surely occur, but you | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| occasionally experience will be ascribed entirely to outer provocations, and you remain content to believe that you | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| and that should be acted upon. Injustices or provocations will be healthily declared once the personality reaches | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| be artfully camouflaged, explained away by apparently real provocations, and successfully projected onto others. Discovering all these | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| consciously to know all you know, with no provocations from outside, the undeveloped aspects would not flare | 220 REAWAKENING FROM PRE-INCARNATORY ANESTHESIA |
| Provoke.....................9 | |
| the enjoyment you derive from the unhappiness you provoke is never felt to be truly and wholly | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| degrees in different human beings. One person may provoke unhappiness and collect misery to a high degree | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| and healthy ones. This must offend others and provoke them to react negatively toward you. And this | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| these trends of the child in you constantly provoke the other person and enhance a response coming | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| will realize that because you were provoked, you provoke the other person. And because you do so | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| you will no longer feel the need to provoke the other person. Also, as the need to | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| less so that they will not have to provoke you. If they do, you will now also | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| and in a more subtle manifestation. Thus you provoke the proof that it does not pay to | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| most subtle way. The negative involvement ceases to provoke a response. This must finally bring the one | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| Provoked....................8 | |
| and hurts. Once you recognize how you have provoked all this in ever so subtle ways, you | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| exactly opposite extreme of the person who has provoked you. If you truly find the corresponding note | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| and come to the fore when you are provoked. Inner change takes a very long time, you | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the distinction as to whether the other person provoked me or I the other person? ANSWER: It | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| Thus you will realize that because you were provoked, you provoke the other person. And because you | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| were hurt in the first place and therefore provoked, according to tonight's lecture you will no longer | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| on provocations and will in turn not be provoked by others. As you gain a certain detachment | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| always be on the surface. It can be provoked or caused, for instance, when you do this | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| Provoking...................8 | |
| unconscious, the injuries collected in the process of provoking the unhappiness make you feel even more inadequate | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| go on and on in subtle, hidden ways, provoking people and setting up negative situations, so that | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| the human soul than the guilt due to provoking and collecting unhappiness. You may ask why this | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| say that the guilt and shame due to provoking unhappiness and collecting miseries is the mother of | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| give it up voluntarily, you will give up provoking unhappiness and misery. It is not easy to | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| of enjoying unhappiness is enjoying the process of provoking the situation that will bring on unhappiness. QUESTION | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| she fosters something in the other person by provoking the reaction that is similar to the parent's | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| because it is you who constantly do the provoking, thereby reproducing conditions similar to your childhood for | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| Prowess.....................3 | |
| centuries man has developed and nursed his physical prowess and his intellectual capacity -- his active side | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| useful. Man retained his superiority long after physical prowess ceased to be the prime value. Other values | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| spiritual equality with man so long after physical prowess has ceased to be an individual's main value | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| Pseudo-.....................19 | |
| You will find that the defense mechanism, the pseudo- protective armor of this fault, is useless, senseless | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| will you need to guard against loving. This pseudo- protection causes you to withdraw into isolation; you | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| failing in anything. In certain combinations of the pseudo- solutions failure may be permitted because in some | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| a combination. Each person has to find which pseudo- solution applies to his or her own person | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| psychological difficulties are not consciously dealt with and pseudo- solutions are adopted, this instinct can also be | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| the very ground you stand on, the precarious pseudo- safety of your idealized self-image. The healthy personality | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| you establish; this attitude represents your pseudo-solution. Your pseudo- solution, in turn, represents the predominant attribute of | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| opinion rather than on your own convictions, on pseudo- solutions and defense-mechanisms that you have laboriously built | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| of other emotions that are superimposed by your pseudo- solutions and defense mechanisms. If you dare not | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| upon others and have seen how unsatisfactory these pseudo- defenses and protections are. All of you may | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| only after a fuller understanding of all your pseudo- solutions and misconceptions, whose depths will make you | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| tonight, you will also understand the opposite. Any pseudo- solution is bound to reject another human being | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| to allow your defense mechanism, whatever your individual pseudo- solutions are, to go to war. Needless to | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| moment you understand how strenuous the pseudo-protections and pseudo- solutions are. How much more easily, more reliably | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| begins to dissolve to a considerable extent the pseudo- solutions, the idealized self-image, the defense mechanisms, but | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| of the hopelessness and destruction, the temporary and pseudo- satisfaction of no-current manifestations, unless you become deeply | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| use the power to let go of the pseudo- safety of hate and cruelty and change your | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| you just as a result of abandoning these pseudo- satisfactions and pleasures, these poor substitutes? As long | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| very different expression and interchange. If you use pseudo- intelligence to substantiate your doubts, distrusts and suspicions | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| Pseudo-calm.................3 | |
| suppress the real reaction, while on the surface pseudo-calm prevails. Only what you really feel can ever | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| But you should also be careful of the pseudo-calm harmony, the superimposed lack of need that is | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| be very different. When you penetrate this outer pseudo-calm, which is so easily disturbed by circumstances outside | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| Pseudo-comfort..............1 | |
| of life. She wanted to indulge in the pseudo-comfort of subjugation. This has turned out to be | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| Pseudo-control..............1 | |
| The tight control one grabs at is a pseudo-control that merely increases tension and anxiety. It prohibits | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| Pseudo-cure.................1 | |
| It gives a temporary, superficial, and very unreal pseudo-cure. COMMENT: It takes you by mechanical means out | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| Pseudo-defense..............1 | |
| you will be able to give up the pseudo-defense that makes the maintenance and cultivation of the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| Pseudo-defensive............1 | |
| nothing but a defensive weapon, or rather, a pseudo-defensive weapon, for in reality it has the very | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| Pseudo-elation..............1 | |
| The only way to distinguish between genuine and pseudo-elation is the honest answer to whether or not | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Pseudo-euphoric.............1 | |
| you care to elaborate on the distinction between pseudo-euphoric states of elation and genuine elation? The question | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Pseudo-existence............1 | |
| a precipice which brings hesitation and a prolonged pseudo-existence. When this point is not dealt with, terror | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| Pseudo-faith................3 | |
| faith and no love under superimposed levels of pseudo-faith and pseudo-love. Only after fully understanding the inner | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and then it is not real faith, but pseudo-faith. It may be a mixture of partly healthy | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| healthy faith, partly unconscious lack of faith, and pseudo-faith. All that has to be found out, investigated | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Pseudofears.................1 | |
| other. This is why you alternate between experiencing pseudofears and pseudofulfillment in daydreams. QUESTION: I can't connect | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| Pseudo-firm.................1 | |
| matter how tentatively, you have then left the pseudo-firm ground of your old security which had seemed | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| Pseudo-fulfillment..........1 | |
| about yourself, your real needs, your drives, your pseudo-fulfillment in fantasies and about their purpose. Now, are | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| Pseudo-goodness.............1 | |
| degree in stripping off your superimposed layers of pseudo-goodness and pseudo-love. However, you have not yet quite | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| Pseudo-individuality........1 | |
| so, and even unwilling, because he cherishes the pseudo-individuality of the perpetual rebel. What makes you believe | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |