| Rejecter....................11 | |
| the confused, immature mind of the child, the rejecter now becomes desirable, taking the place of that | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| further result of this confusion is that the rejecter seems unloving. The mother or father is desirable | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| sought. Just as I do not reject my rejecter, so will I no longer be rejected. Since | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| will I no longer be rejected. Since the rejecter seems cold, aloof, and free of emotions, this | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| to give freely what you desire from the rejecter. If the situation is such that the rejecter | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| rejecter. If the situation is such that the rejecter is outwardly the superior one, always the winner | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| that the loving parent is weak, while the rejecter is strong. Therefore love becomes weakness, while aloofness | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| manifold. It may be completely wrong that the rejecter is strong, while the loving parent is weak | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| love capacity. On the other hand, the strong rejecter may really not be strong. He or she | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| in an ever so subtle way with the rejecter and, together with him or her, you reject | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| You would rather be accepted by the desirable rejecter than be identified with the weak, needy and | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| Rejecting...................51 | |
| which causes you discomfort, be very careful before rejecting it. Ask God again and again for the | 8 MEDIUMSHIP -- HOW TO CONTACT GOD'S SPIRIT WORLD |
| to these influences, but determine them. And by rejecting any influence that does not come from the | 15 INFLUENCE BETWEEN THE SPIRITUAL WORLD AND THE MATERIAL WORLD |
| you have not accepted life's rules, you are rejecting personal responsibility for your hardships, and you are | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| the calm, serene deliberation, be it accepting or rejecting. You may not wish to reject the whole | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| apparently weaker and under the domination of the rejecting parent, and perhaps even a little bit despised | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| this person takes on the role of the rejecting parent. Examine your most subtle and elusive emotions | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| with the longing to be loved by the rejecting parent. Whenever this is the case, the conflict | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| of choosing the road of evil, that is rejecting the road of self-development. ANSWER: Well, in a | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| constantly feel rejected should think, Perhaps I am rejecting others in one form or another. It may | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| good, for the soul who goes through life rejecting the experience of life with all its meanings | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| you forfeit the love you could have by rejecting it altogether. So you make it worse. In | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| the image will form that women are ungiving, rejecting, and do not give love. Therefore the child | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| defense against being hurt is to be arrogant, rejecting, superior, and fearful. All these are traits which | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| the courage to explore these possibilities, instead of rejecting them in fear. Thus, and thus only, will | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| not to burden yourself with the guilt of rejecting what you also crave? Or are you one | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| you feel it should already be gone, thus rejecting your state of being human? Do you also | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| reality, because then your own behavior must be rejecting. This example has often been found and discussed | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| fulfilling them. This has nothing to do with rejecting you. Once you truly see the truth and | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| you wish and consequently a subtle attitude of rejecting it. The fear may be based on an | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| it follow a harsh, disharmonious, rocky, shrinking or rejecting soul movement that leads to greater blindness, error | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| to take the place of a benign parent, rejecting the need for self-responsibility. Concomitantly, as long as | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| who strives to reach the real self by rejecting the development of a healthy ego, does so | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| defend yourself. This may take the form of rejecting, resenting, or despising them, but not then does | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| the defenses that make you so tight and rejecting of new ideas that seem to threaten you | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| keep a sense of proportion about it, not rejecting the total personality because of it, the rage | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| result of not quite wanting to live, of rejecting aspects of living, such as feeling, breathing, moving | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| negativity of life makes the negativity eventually superfluous. Rejecting the negative experience binds you to it for | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| you really fear. When I speak of not rejecting your negative feelings, I do not mean that | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| deeper and eventually joyful experience by no longer rejecting it. Now, are there any questions, my friends | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| encourage his full selfhood, not competing with or rejecting his activation because it no longer is a | 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS |
| of such discovery is then in accepting, not rejecting, self and life. The perception of the ongoing | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| your entire self. You fail to differentiate between rejecting a trait and rejecting the person, whether yourself | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| fail to differentiate between rejecting a trait and rejecting the person, whether yourself or others. Therefore you | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| life expression. And no trait merits evaluating and rejecting your whole self because of it. Once you | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| wrong and destructive way, both to accepting and rejecting frustration in life. The right kind of acceptance | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| can practice the right way of accepting and rejecting a frustration of life, you possess yourself. You | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| pulled into the wrong way of accepting and rejecting frustration in life, you become alienated from yourself | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| blaming others, but not feeling hopeless and self- rejecting about them either. This seems like a tall | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| absent when you reject the evil within you. Rejecting evil, you ignore and deny the vital, original | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| reject the other person just as you keep rejecting your own self. The difference is that you | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| identify with your hopelessness. When you feel self- rejecting, guilty and bad, it is important to realize | 216 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE INCARNATORY PROCESS AND THE LIFE TASK |
| harmoniously the movement of your process. Hating and rejecting your present state means fearing yourself, which means | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| as not to judge in an ultimate and rejecting way. Transform negative judgement into recognition. QUESTION: What | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| is the negativity that creates illness and neurosis. Rejecting the punishing deity concept, humanity had to tend | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| heart and her love for the man and rejecting love. In the countermovement of the pendulum, man | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| it, embrace it. Completely reverse your attitude, from rejecting to accepting it. And what you will experience | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| what you sense yourself to be: just as rejecting, unloving, ungenerous, over-cautions. The suspicion which you project | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| and why are you adhering to it or rejecting it? When you examine life's issues in that | 246 TRADITION: ITS DIVINE AND DISTORTED ASPECTS |
| on the other hand, find security in totally rejecting their parents' values, at least in this particular | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| and from not having been sufficiently successful in rejecting Him. Yet the more one rejects a truth | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| fears you and erroneously uses a coldness or rejecting attitude as a defense? Knowing this removes your | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |
| Rejection...................140 | |
| world of God. If they reject it, their rejection serves the good purpose of necessary testing and | 20 GOD: THE CREATION |
| in a situation when you have feelings of rejection, culminating into feelings of resentment? ANSWER: In the | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| that the personality must not be rejected; that rejection must not happen to it. In this way | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| a power drive in a person who resents rejection or possible rejection. The emotion says: If you | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| in a person who resents rejection or possible rejection. The emotion says: If you do not do | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| through pride and defiance, choose an unfavorable one. Rejection is given only because of the rejecter's own | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| explanations. But the uncleanliness will create new conflicts: rejection from others will set in motion a new | 38 IMAGES |
| you nowhere. Realize that guilt is really the rejection of the state in which you find yourself | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| the universe is unjust -- to self- indulgence, rejection of self-responsibility, and the expectation that God will | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| react or feel that way. Find out what rejection must have caused your self-love, this being in | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| there is such a wrong form of self-love, rejection, imagined or real, must have played a role | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| or real, must have played a role. Usually rejection is at the other pole of the current | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| find out how you tried to counteract the rejection by unconsciously withdrawing from life, shortchanging it, cheating | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| later, when experiencing a hurt, disappointment, frustration, or rejection, wishes to die. When analyzing this thoroughly, we | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| you free and independent. Self-pity is a complete rejection of self-responsibility. It expresses further the hidden desire | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| you must never be inadequate leads to your rejection of self- responsibility, and the continued wish to | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| dependency. Dependency often manifests in rebellion and complete rejection of that which also contains much benefit. You | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| not forthcoming, the child feels it as a rejection, and a confusion arises in the soul. In | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| of confused emotions. With the confusion about parental rejection in the unconscious, the personality grows into an | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| Then, in addition to its own experience of rejection, the child witnesses the apparent or actual rejection | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| rejection, the child witnesses the apparent or actual rejection of the loving parent. The child then gains | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| may not be gratified. In your fear of rejection and defeat such submissiveness seems the only way | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| is often taken as a personal insult or rejection. Of course, that is not quite so. True | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| hurt will be removed; the feeling of personal rejection will be diminished, at least to some extent | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| way. Another sign of emotional immaturity is the rejection of responsibility. I do not mean that merely | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| better if you think this over carefully. The rejection of self-development and purification does not come from | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| concerned with. For one person it will be rejection, for another prejudice, for a third the fear | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| be done because you are so afraid of rejection that you reject others before they can reject | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| human being will react to your obsession with rejection in such a way that the vicious circle | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| is the desire to be loved and the rejection of love. There is the basic instinct to | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is the basic instinct to live and the rejection of it. By that, I mean more than | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| then no longer interpret it as a personal rejection, but will understand that his or her unconscious | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| the reason for the unhealthy impact and subsequent rejection. Once you fully understand this, you will no | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| that what you fear are death and suffering. Rejection of love signifies both. You run away not | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| to the pleasure principle than is the spiritualized rejection of bodily pleasure. In a mature and healthy | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| child, the human being encounters disappointment, helplessness, and rejection -- both real and imagined. These feelings create | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| soul considers safe. The unhealthy soul experiences any rejection -- withholding of love, admiration, and approval -- | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| you have to fight against the illusion of rejection in any form. The fight assumes various forms | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| obtain fulfillment, fearful souls will regard any minor rejection, criticism, or disapproval as such drastic danger that | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| does not expose you to the risk of rejection and hurt. Emotional or sensual pleasure, on the | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| distorted that you feel any frustration as personal rejection and as proof of your inadequacy. You can | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| the often disproportionate pain of a failure, a rejection, or lack of success in a particular field | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| falsification, but a much more subtle inner strain. Rejection or failure may subjectively constitute imperfection of which | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| child an unreal, or perhaps real, feeling of rejection, the child feels unworthy of love and therefore | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| moment you understand your parents, the sense of rejection will disappear, even if they were cruel to | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| basic understanding that your parents' real or imagined rejection of you had nothing to do with your | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| through real inner understanding, the sense of their rejection of you must disappear. It may have happened | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| The moment you have this understanding, the original rejection by them will no longer cause you to | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| he is twisted and distorted, and loves the rejection rather than the love. The mere fact of | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| in a very advanced state. Since pain through rejection seems the only certain thing that one can | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| then tie up with this new understanding. Your rejection of happiness, joy, pleasure, life, and love is | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| life, and love is in reality just a rejection of yourself. This is exactly what I discussed | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| me a confusion between the pleasure principle and rejection, as well as between happiness and selfishness. What | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| pleasure, you are not in reality. Reality means rejection and unpleasure, therefore you escape from it and | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| realizing that you are doing so. All the rejection, isolation, and pain that you inadvertently inflict onto | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| that any hurt or frustration, any criticism or rejection is a danger you must guard against, you | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| an unreal danger. Such dangers are emotional hurt, rejection, frustration of your will, and criticism. When you | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| doubt that hiding the truth is what causes rejection. This is why a free admission of the | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| a defense against exposure brings forth contempt, dislike, rejection, and fear, and is bound to make the | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| off an accusation which you believe might bring rejection, frustration, and hurt. At that moment, it becomes | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| and loving. Where there is apathy, there is rejection of life. Where there is indifference, there is | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| need to impress, or out of fear of rejection, mature people will not conform at all. But | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| questions about this. You do not understand why rejection, in one form or another, has taken place | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| positive into a negative feeling. You feel resentment, rejection, pride, and you withdraw either from that particular | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| were less defensive, less self-willed, less concerned with rejection or the frustration of your immediate will, you | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| refused is devastating to them, yet they court rejection by their urgency. When it comes, all they | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| investigate, my dearest friends, whether this very basic rejection of life holds true or not for you | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| or not for you. When you discover this rejection, allow it to come out just as irrationally | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| reasoning faculties, you blindly reject rational inquiry. The rejection is not so much a reaction against the | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| theoretical. It does neither require the risk of rejection, nor taking the trouble of pondering what the | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| if you are convinced of being rejected, the rejection will finally become a reality, because then your | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| one's idealized self- image and bring disapproval and rejection. But they are often more acceptable than pleasurable | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| love. Hence, hate is due not only to rejection and hurt, but equally to what seems forbidden | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| there is at least a slight element of rejection, fearfulness, insecurity, or pain. When these negative emotions | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| climate in which to function erotically, because complete rejection is not possible either. Even if you feel | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| starvation you expose yourself to. Any unfulfillment, hurt, rejection or disappointment causes an infinitely deeper suffering in | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| of vocational success, the slightest real or imagined rejection in your career hurts infinitely more than a | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| your career hurts infinitely more than a real rejection in your relationship. Discussing such a topic must | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| Does this not mean more intense pain when rejection occurs? The answer to the first question is | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| idea that an outer event -- be it rejection, criticism, or loss -- can cause suffering, one | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| or the desire for dependency and reward, through rejection of self-responsibility. In fact, the wishful thinking has | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| This fence seems a protection against disapproval or rejection. But you imprison yourself, and the result is | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| be better equipped to solve your problem of rejection and inadequacy -- a problem that does not | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| is intermingled. The immediate feeling is fear of rejection. This started very early in your life. My | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| and would hinder insight. But when fear of rejection is analyzed, one always finds that childish fear | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| experiences not so much outright cruelty, but vague rejection or nonacceptance, the pleasure principle will attach itself | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| current will only be activated in conjunction with rejection. There are many degrees and variations of this | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| where a child experiences partial acceptance and partial rejection. Then the pleasure principle is attached to an | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| or a little rejected, or being fearful that rejection may occur. QUESTION: But they didn't experience pleasure | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| QUESTION: And the child wishes to reproduce this rejection? ANSWER: Not consciously, of course. No one really | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| cannot be said that a person unconsciously desires rejection, but the reflex was already established at a | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| think I do. QUESTION: Since all children experience rejection, and since all children are insatiable in their | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| pleasure principle: I had to set up a rejection. Seeing it as clearly as I do now | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| are afraid -- of ruthlessness and separateness, of rejection and humiliation, of physical and mental cruelty -- | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| contact with people -- you at least anticipate rejection and discrimination, slight and disapproval. Very often you | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| division because through it you can justify your rejection of the life principle as it manifests within | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| it is not so much that an actual rejection took place, but your childish misunderstanding of the | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is the very means that continually reproduces the rejection and frustration. In other words, you will connect | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| in order to ward off disapproval, censure, and rejection. The need to be accepted by others is | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| great censure and disapproval and possibly even overt rejection. I invite all of you to vigorously face | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| frequent occurrence as an example: your fear of rejection. This fear runs through your psychic life, and | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| life, and consequently through our outer, physical life. Rejection itself would not be the threat it is | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| believe that you are worth nothing; what makes rejection such a great threat is that it seems | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| acknowledge that the anxiety exists because you fear rejection. Subsequently, you must unearth that rejection is so | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| you fear rejection. Subsequently, you must unearth that rejection is so threatening because you feel worthless and | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| self- expression. You may also misinterpret the actual rejection as a personal one, and not recognize that | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| anything of myself. Whenever I feel threatened by rejection, criticism, frustration of my immediate desires, I at | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| Thus the expression becomes one of hostility and rejection. To recapitulate briefly: Wrong perception of self leads | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| or feel. When you connect with your own rejection of life, you will no longer feel helpless | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| feelings creates the process of dividing yourself. Any rejection of what one feels and experiences creates self-division | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| hand, into life; on the other, into a rejection of and defense against life. In turn, you | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| you move with your feelings. Perhaps you fear rejection, ridicule, hurt, but whatever your fears may be | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| on the other. Knowing and experiencing your own rejection of pleasure is the first step to removing | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| will also reveal, commensurately, the awareness of your rejection of happiness. Wherever you may be on this | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| of your life, but it still indicates self- rejection. All these manifestations indicate self-rejection, self-dislike. It should | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| striving versus hopeless resignation, arising from an unconscious rejection of the desired result -- whether pleasure or | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| from life. Thus, the person must experience lack, rejection, and frustration. He or she then builds defenses | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| acceptance automatically brings along the right kind of rejection of frustration. Right acceptance is the awareness and | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| but rather leads to the right kind of rejection of suffering. In effect, the person expresses this | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| attitude unites the right acceptance with the right rejection of frustration. Wrong acceptance of frustration leads to | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| frustration. Wrong acceptance of frustration leads to wrong rejection of it, and vice versa. When you dramatize | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| This principle is clearly illustrated here. Acceptance and rejection of frustration are not opposites but can form | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| very unfortunate. You manage not to see this rejection of the imperfect self and of the other | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| of a hurt to your pride or a rejection, or frustration of your will or desires -- | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| when you experience what you fear -- say, rejection -- will you experience the pain of it | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| way you feel about it. If you sense rejection you must deal with your inner contradiction and | 194 MEDITATION: LAWS AND VARIOUS APPROACHES-SUMMARY (MEDITATION AS POSITIVE LIFE CREATION) |
| negative intentionalities, experience a bitter pain, a new rejection, even though they may not be actually conscious | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| fluctuate between guilt and resentment, between negation and rejection of self, of others and of life, and | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| heart to love, you will get nothing but rejection, unfairness, and hate in return. It does not | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| arises in itself out of fear of movement, rejection of movement, hence out of the illusion that | 203 INTERPENETRATION OF THE DIVINE LIGHT SPARK INTO THE OUTER REGIONS - MIND EXERCISES |
| together with its derivatives, such as frustration, disappointment, rejection, and believe that you must not experience these | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| desire or greedy, distorted desire from a fearful rejection of life's pattern. As your meditation practice grows | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| parents are prototypical figures to their children. Strong rejection of a parent, or of particular traits and | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| as much to you. His or her anger, rejection and retaliation may be less dangerous to you | 215 PSYCHIC NUCLEAR POINTS CONTINUED -- PROCESS IN THE NOW |
| -- is the growth process free to evolve. Rejection of the current state and anger about it | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| to shun it because you fear exposure and rejection; you fear your need and your weakness; because | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| itself. The word you speak out of this rejection creates the false unity of neither being able | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| shrinks fearfully from confrontation. The courage to risk rejection for the sake of help and truth exists | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| feelings that you had denied: pain, hate, self- rejection, guilt, rage, all shades of fear and terror | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| were supposed to judge, to imply unfairness, arbitrariness, rejection. This is clearly a projection of humanity's own | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |