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 Self-abasement..............1
produce, almost artificially, an overreaction of despair, hurt, self-abasement, or a feeling of injustice. You forget, at 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
 
 Self-abuse..................1
in the right way, without guilt feelings and self-abuse. The latter are unhealthy and unproductive. You must 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS
 
 Self-abusing................1
To accept one's own faults properly means neither self-abusing despair and discouragement because you discover yourself to 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH
 
 Self-acceptance.............36
yourself, wishing to give up, and you consider self-acceptance to be senseless, then you have the destructive 31 SHAME
will learn the right kind of shame and self-acceptance, which brings humility, overcomes pride, and shows you 31 SHAME
unconscious problems, concepts, and attitudes. Self- knowledge and self-acceptance are the prerequisites. Everything else arises from that 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION
confidence will therefore grow in proportion to your self-acceptance. You will base your often unconscious opinion of 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
to keep fostering in you a spirit of self-acceptance, forgiveness, and tolerance with yourself. There comes a 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
longer be torn between the alternatives of either self-acceptance and self- indulgence, or repentance and self-hate. On 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
suffers the same split as the concept of self-acceptance and the will to change. If you rebel 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
in mind. Take, for instance, rebellion, repentance, or self-acceptance. One person may think of healthy rebellion, or 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
self-accusation in false repentance; of the self-indulgence in self-acceptance. These are just examples, but you can find 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
by quietly pursuing this work of self-awareness and self-acceptance. You know all this, but so often you 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
to be accepted by others in lieu of self-acceptance impairs your integrity even further. In some subtle 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
step. Once you have arrived at the healthy self-acceptance in which you fully face your real guilt 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
by establishing the necessary sense of integrity and self-acceptance. You will discover that the more you love 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL
accepted, understood, and inwardly lived through in full self-acceptance before you can trust yourself to be unguarded 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT
specific manifestations, it is often not justifiable. Full self-acceptance must be established before trust can exist. Then 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT
found and dissolved to an extent -- when self-acceptance and observation bring new understanding and harmony into 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES
the detached, objective self-evaluation that comes from deep self-acceptance and determination to do away with self-glorification and 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES
your life center. By the very act of self-acceptance, the unwelcome emotions and attitudes gradually dissolve. Even 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE
feelings, the aliveness--or the lack of them. When self-acceptance, truthfulness, positive attitudes prevail you tune more into 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS
and that will have increased with the new self-acceptance -- must now be used to institute change 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS
that apparently makes admitting an unpleasant truth and self-acceptance into mutually exclusive opposites. But before I will 174 SELF-ESTEEM
To make this fight productive, to create proper self-acceptance that does not deteriorate into self-indulgence, you must 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE
of exposure. It is a significant sign of self-acceptance and growth when a human being is capable 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF)
attention. Second, you will cultivate a much greater self-acceptance and understanding of reality. Unreal self-hate and self-disgust 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF)
chanced to hit upon the right blend of self-acceptance. But you have to grope for this realization 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE
is: To the degree evil is properly faced, self-acceptance, self-liking, new energy and deeper love and pleasure 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE
negative in you, you will grow into greater self-acceptance. Simultaneously, your ability to have mutuality will grow 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW
have mutuality will grow in proportion to your self-acceptance. Hence your relationships will improve and become much 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW
acute self-blame which may easily be confused with self-acceptance, but is just as far removed from it 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW
include anger and hate, disappointment and blaming. When self-acceptance makes mutuality possible and energy is exchanged, the 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW
new attitudes are: setting a positive goal of self-acceptance without losing a sense of proportion; groping for 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS
important attitudes to acquire for proper self-respect and self-acceptance is the ability to admit being wrong without 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY
let us specifically talk about the need for self-acceptance. Again and again you lose sight of its 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN
more you put your hatred onto others, because self-acceptance seems too final a judgment, too self-annihilating. And 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN
damaging effects for what they are. You confuse self-acceptance and self-forgiveness with condoning and whitewashing the negativities 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF
you need to forge ahead and reestablish your self-acceptance and self-respect. Yet this can be done only 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION
 
 Self-accepting..............2
bliss impossible. You hope to become a truly self-accepting and self- respecting human being without giving up 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
dealt with in a much more direct and self-accepting way. This is the difficult juncture where many 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE
 
 Self-accounting.............2
action should not be stopped because in your self-accounting you have discovered that negative motivations, moralizing, and 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
in that way. It takes a bit of self-accounting and observation in this respect to become aware 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
 
 Self-accusation.............5
defiance, and cruelty; of the unhealthy guilt and self-accusation in false repentance; of the self-indulgence in self-acceptance 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
you further than all the fault- finding and self-accusation without letting go of the very situation that 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
go of the very situation that makes such self-accusation necessary for you. The terror in you, which 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
it or not. False, damaging, tortured moralizing and self-accusation always hides a deep inner insistence not to 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE
you off the hook of your own secret self-accusation and it will free others of your accusations 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE
 
 Self-accusations............3
and will even be inclined to contradict your self-accusations; thus the ego is bolstered. Furthermore, you think 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW
trend, you will also free yourself from destructive self-accusations. You will simply know that you have harbored 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE
When your yes-current observes the no-current without frantic self-accusations, it becomes possible to translate the latter into 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
 
 Self-acknowledgement........1
this moment. So make your soul healthy through self-acknowledgement. In that way, slowly, step by step, you 45 THE CONFLICT BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS DESIRES
 
 Self-activated..............1
is relinquished and, instead of surrendering to the self-activated inner powers, one surrenders to another person's authority 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
 
 Self-activating.............2
stagnation and frustration belong together. Expansion is a self-activating process that combines the masculine and feminine principles 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS
now must exist for the purpose of the self-activating principle in which the negative result becomes the 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS
 
 Self-activation.............3
is distorted when the entity refuses self-responsibility. If self-activation is relinquished and, instead of surrendering to the 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
Hence, the man who has a problem in self-activation must, in other ways, be unable to let 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
of the loving woman heightens the mastery of self-activation in her mate. She will encourage his full 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
 
 Self-actualization..........1
whisked away by some magic spiritual means. Self-realization, self-actualization, reaching your spiritual center -- or whatever name 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
 
 Self-actualizing............1
swings to the other. Only a truly connected, self-actualizing and unified person expresses outer form as an 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE
 
 Self-admiration.............2
other. Then there is a certain type of self-admiration which is of a sickly nature that is 53 SELF-LOVE
usually realized. It is the sickly kind of self-admiration, being in love with oneself. This may manifest 53 SELF-LOVE
 
 Self-admission..............1
Those who have reached the point of such self-admission can exactly pinpoint their shame, their pretense, their 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
 
 Self-affirmation............2
more autonomous and active. Genuine positive activity and self-affirmation renders you sufficiently strong and resilient so you 254 SURRENDER
will be room for firmness, for standing in self-affirmation, and for the ability to surrender whenever and 254 SURRENDER
 
 Self-aggrandizement.........2
Since the nature of the idealized self-image is self-aggrandizement, it separates you from others. Since its nature 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
A person can easily fluctuate from an outer self-aggrandizement to a hidden inner self- deprecation. When the 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF)
 
 Self-alienated..............4
have some inkling in what way you are self-alienated and perfectionistic. You have therefore realized the extent 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
fulfill the other person's needs. When you are self-alienated and perfectionistic, you cannot help but hurt others 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
into the areas of human relationships. In your self-alienated states, you may have as genuine a friendship 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
are playing a role and yet they are self-alienated. For them, other clues exist. QUESTION: How can 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
 
 Self-alienating.............1
the motivation behind it may come from dependent, self-alienating trends. Try to ascertain the desires behind each 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER
 
 Self-alienation.............67
makes you less alienated from yourself. What does self-alienation mean? I have used this expression quite often 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
without any awareness of its spiritual significance. For self-alienation means that in some way, some part or 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
my friends, be blessed in the Lord. 95. SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
you wish to realize yourself. The state of self-alienation -- that of not being one's real self 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
to be normal. Let us again look at self-alienation, what it means and how it manifests, and 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
it can be recognized. One way of spotting self-alienation is by determining in what areas of life 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
such an unresolved conflict as the result of self-alienation, or see self-alienation as the result of an 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
conflict as the result of self-alienation, or see self-alienation as the result of an unresolved problem. Any 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
paralysis of your faculties are the results of self-alienation. This is intimately connected with unresolved problems that 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
will understand what this means in terms of self-alienation. You focus your concentration on something unreal and 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
with it. Use the various indicators of your self-alienation that I have given you to experience it 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
you? Such dependency will show not only your self-alienation, but also your will to remain that way 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
ones, isn't this another substantial proof of your self-alienation? If you were related to your real self 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
real self, so to the degree of their self-alienation, to that degree reason does not function. The 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
AND ADDITIONAL COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION Greetings, my dearest friends. Blessings for all of 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
to my last lecture, on the subject of self-alienation. Although there is much more to be said 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
point. We discussed some of the symptoms of self-alienation such as: not relating to yourself and to 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
a symptom, one of the many effects of self-alienation. It is generally assumed that laziness is simply 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
understand its true significance as a consequence of self-alienation. For if you are truly anchored in the 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
many obstructions exist, once this energy is spent, self-alienation hinders its regeneration. Thus you see the outer 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
age is nothing but a product of your self-alienation. Compulsive overactivity comes from the same root as 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
now important that you connect the pretense with self-alienation and with all its ramifications. Find the subtle 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
the subject that here lies a nucleus of self-alienation, inability to relinquish, pretense that does not work 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
very best homework. COMMENT: Thank you. QUESTION: About self-alienation: Say a young girl has an image of 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
add to it my most recent lecture on self-alienation, and you will find the following: The more 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
on the necessity of bringing out emotions and self-alienation. When much of the past material is forgotten 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
It might also be called coming home from self-alienation. There are many indications of true selfhood. Take 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
to connect it now to the theme of self-alienation and the denial of joy in life through 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
ever so subtle, causes and leads to further self-alienation. The productive approach is to make conscious what 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
own values leads to selfhood and away from self-alienation. This will bring you to a state of 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
look at this phenomenon in the light of self-alienation to understand why this seemingly harmless process is 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
not genuine is conducive to, and results in, self-alienation, and therefore shallowness. Even if you seem to 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
awareness of life and self, as well as self-alienation. Awareness of life and of others can come 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
root. They are both an expression of your self-alienation. You know perfectly well from your recent findings 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS
and would rather welcome the pain than the self-alienation of feeling nothing, or very little. Continuing the 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
anger. Repressing the truth institutes a process of self-alienation, of psychological self-estrangement. You can all begin to 101 THE DEFENSE
yourself and from life. Pretense and self- deception, self-alienation and isolation must be the result. Defensiveness not 101 THE DEFENSE
real self. Both lead to, and stem from, self-alienation; both are opposites of love, of communication, and 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
lie is one of self-deception and therefore of self-alienation. It is displacement. Thus, the lie causes negative 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
reason or another. Such superimposition leads to the self-alienation that we have discussed so frequently. Even your 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
approval. You deliberately set up a process of self-alienation by the simple act of discouraging your natural 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
harder to decipher because these pseudo-solutions only abet self-alienation. It is now necessary that you gain an 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
though wearing blindfolds is a typical symptom of self-alienation. Another is looking for and finding blame in 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
than that. One's loss of identity, due to self-alienation, makes a pretense out of a truth, because 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
imply that this is the only symptom of self-alienation. There may be many who never consciously feel 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
on psychic phenomena was also a form of self-alienation, a lack of trust in your own faculties 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
of it. Some time ago I lectured on self-alienation. Needless to say, there is a connection between 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
are discussing, although they are not the same. Self-alienation comes from the failure of identification with the 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
of identification with the self. In other words, self-alienation is an effect, while self- identification is a 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
All the psychological aspects of appeasing, betraying, and self-alienation simply indicate that you have not yet been 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
retain values long past their temporary usefulness. People's self-alienation and lack of independent thinking make them cling 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
way they do. Such lack of consciousness creates self-alienation, cripples creativity, and prohibits love. It stifles the 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
other-centeredness amounts to losing the self. It is self-alienation. The right kind of self-centeredness is the opposite 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
right kind of self-centeredness is the opposite of self-alienation. It finds the gravity centered deep within the 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
overcome. Fear of self can end only in self-alienation. It therefore cheats you of your birthright to 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF
next link in the negative chain reaction, following self-alienation, is that these apparently good and bad alternatives 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF
one with yourself. A further chain reaction of self-alienation is losing oneself in the illusion that one 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF
Such determination is the first step back from self-alienation. It is the way to achieve relaxed and 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF
psyche loses itself in a process of extended self-alienation. This explains the apparent paradox that giving up 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS
alcoholism and drug addiction. Less extreme forms are self-alienation and mental states of disassociation from the self 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO
causes despair and frustration, because it leads to self-alienation and disconnectedness of a particular kind. It is 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER
has created the instinctual restrictions and fear, the self-alienation, the aridness and impoverishment of the souls who 174 SELF-ESTEEM
enmity against humanity; humanity's defensive pettiness of spirit; self-alienation; the false, destructive reaction to frustration; living for 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE
step in the chain reaction is self-possession versus self-alienation. If it is true that human beings must 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE
ifs and buts. This is always so when self-alienation exists and the central point has been lost 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE
insensibility is not an advantage. It creates more self-alienation, less aliveness, and it requires more work until 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL
the masses and dictate laws and values. The self-alienation of overcrowded living and working, in which human 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS

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