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 Self-erected................1
perfectionistic that you must fear falling off the self-erected pedestal. Many fears will dissolve when you are 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT
 
 Self-eroding................2
influences of hidden attitudes. Yet to assume self-destructive, self-eroding guilt about hidden destructiveness makes matters so much 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED
realization is extremely liberating. It frees you from self-eroding guilt without removing the responsibility that is yours 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED
 
 Self-esteem.................29
for creative accomplishment, the need for ego-gratification and self-esteem, the need for the pleasure of accomplishment, the 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
consciously or unconsciously seeks depends directly on one's self-esteem, the ability to like oneself. The equation always 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS
For then you will truly be God. 174. SELF-ESTEEM Greetings, my dearest friends. Blessings for every one 174 SELF-ESTEEM
These reactions indicate struggle and confusion regarding their self-esteem, which is of fundamental importance. Self- esteem, self-liking 174 SELF-ESTEEM
inferiority. To the degree these feelings are present, self-esteem is inevitably lacking, only this is not directly 174 SELF-ESTEEM
This is indeed a vicious circle, for true self-esteem can, of course, come only by your sensing 174 SELF-ESTEEM
going on right now in relation to my self-esteem. It feels like an atomic explosion. I realize 174 SELF-ESTEEM
and pleasure, you must inevitably also deny your self-esteem. Your key must lie in seeing that your 174 SELF-ESTEEM
direct result of it. You sacrifice joy, peace, self-esteem, inner security, expansion and growth, pleasure on all 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
they will be able to give themselves the self-esteem they could not feel when remaining demanding, resentful 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
that and you cannot know peace, joy, fulfillment, self-esteem, the deep sense of deserving the best that 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS
do without what you want will enhance your self-esteem and your integrity. This will begin to enrich 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD
entirely new way, without conflict between security and self-esteem in the false sense -- by being negative 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION
different? If you attach your self-worth and your self-esteem to how you appear in the eyes of 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION
the surface, you constantly eat away at your self-esteem. Deep inside, you know you are not in 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION
that is not built on sound and deep self-esteem. However, the groping that is healthy, that is 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION
It comes only as a result of true self-esteem that is built on sincere giving and commitment 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION
What an illusion it is to hope for self-esteem and security on any basis other than the 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION
you many advantages. It will give you the self-esteem and also the feeling of deserving and claiming 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION
this is the way to attain self-love and self-esteem. The true, guilt-free awareness of other people's wrongdoing 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM
you become further alienated from true self-love and self-esteem. Therefore, if you want to find the real 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM
particular circumstances will immediately fill you with the self-esteem that can never develop when you pursue a 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM
to talk yourself out of self-hate and into self-esteem on theoretical grounds, you will not succeed until 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA
aspects of growth, of self-liberation, of purification, of self-esteem. The defense against admitting a possible wrong perpetuates 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY
thereby you have gained new freedom and new self-esteem. What is still difficult for you to accept 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS
facets may have to be revealed, create more self-esteem than secretiveness ever could. Eventually the esteem and 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY
any way, are the direct doorway to the self-esteem you so desperately try to create and preserve 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY
in a desperate attempt to enhance their deteriorated self-esteem. If you sense such motives, you should indeed 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY
others that cannot be resolved. Great strength and self-esteem will grow from this, my friends. First, however 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE
 
 Self-estranged..............1
reality, of certain factors in your life. The self-estranged person experiences frustration as much more painful than 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
 
 Self-estrangement...........6
inner problems tearing the person apart -- that self-estrangement increases steadily, and therefore reality becomes not only 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
entirely free of it, if there were no self-estrangement, there would be no need whatsoever to daydream 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
life. The immobilization of these faculties resulted from self-estrangement which, in turn, was connected with and resulted 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
Thus you are never able to solve anything. Self-estrangement exists also in the form of projecting your 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
truth institutes a process of self-alienation, of psychological self-estrangement. You can all begin to see how predominant 101 THE DEFENSE
You may actually be a father, yet your self-estrangement makes it appear as though you merely play 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
 
 Self-evaluation.............6
all entities are trained to become strong in self-evaluation, each soul is always given the chance to 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures)
to the same. Self-knowledge, a true and realistic self-evaluation, is the only thing that can bring forth 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
the life force. It indicates humility and proper self-evaluation. It means that you can stop struggling, because 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
from illusion and confusion, distorts perception and prevents self-evaluation. From these results, disturbed interaction and disharmony follow 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF
think -- even if only in your secret self-evaluation -- that you must choose between giving up 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION
way for a while, with the detached, objective self-evaluation that comes from deep self-acceptance and determination to 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES
 
 Self-evasion................2
begin to truly unfold if you stopped the self-evasion. It prohibits, impairs, or dilutes your capacity to 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
traits are, the greater the guilt and the self-evasion, which make it impossible to get down to 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
 
 Self-evasions...............1
with all sentimentality that encourages your weaknesses and self-evasions. But because of this, it keeps the promise 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED
 
 Self-evident................14
it for granted that this is a necessary, self-evident part of your life. Yet, when the question 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS
a very grave one. Of course it is self-evident that it is neither desirable nor necessary to 32 DECISION-MAKING
important conflict in the human psyche. It is self-evident that the child feels ashamed of these negative 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE
proof that your conclusion was wrong. It becomes self-evident that this conflict frustrates your inner will and 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS
how and with what motive. This may seem self-evident. You may ask, What motive can I have 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
first accepting yourself as you are. It is self-evident that in thus entering a benign circle, negative 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
to be said about it now. It is self-evident that to the degree that an entity is 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
lectures may appear either as merely interesting or self-evident material, or far-fetched theory. When you allow yourself 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
to the spiritually and emotionally immature person becomes self-evident truth for the spiritually and emotionally mature individual 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
cosmic universal powers and laws -- will be self-evident when you understand how and why negative fields 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO
and the creative process itself. Second, it is self-evident that feelings cannot be controlled by the ego 158 THE EGO'S COOPERATION WITH OR OBSTRUCTION OF THE REAL SELF
questions is not as easy or simple or self-evident as it may appear. Not at all! To 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE
turn, must affect all relationships. This is so self-evident, it hardly needs further elaboration. Since you blame 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING
finite in its present limited state. It is self-evident that the ego can see only what is 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE
 
 Self-evidently..............1
state, the answer must evolve clearly, strongly, and self-evidently. It will evolve all the quicker and better 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL
 
 Self-evolution..............1
significant ventures, such as your spiritual path of self-evolution, which is the most important undertaking in life 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT
 
 Self-examination............11
lack clarity about certain things in myself? Such self-examination should go on at all times. Then you 2 DECISIONS AND TESTS
but comprehended the will of God by honest self-examination. Another time the answer might be very different 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE
if you continue to follow this upward path. Self-examination about your own happiness is a simple little 9 PRAYER AND MEDITATION -- THE LORD'S PRAYER
if you combine prayer with the work of self-examination and tearing down your masks, His answer will 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL
and easily detected also by the searcher once self-examination has begun, although its existence is often hidden 53 SELF-LOVE
at first. But as you proceed with your self-examination, the feeling will become clear. You will become 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
The right answer can come only from rigorous self-examination. More and more, you will see that truth 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
subtle and can only be found in truthful self-examination. Actual dangers are not only physical in nature 101 THE DEFENSE
not question. Therefore you need considerable probing and self-examination to become specifically aware of these elements. The 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
the pleasure. This will require attention, concentration, and self-examination. When you make some headway in this respect 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
-- physical or otherwise -- every meditation, every self-examination and self- confrontation, should always aim to eliminate 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION

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