| Self-perpetuation...........13 | |
| or vicious -- is always the principle of self-perpetuation. Autonomy is positively self-perpetuating, set in motion by | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| reality, the sphere in which there is unlimited self-perpetuation in whatever respect consciousness is aware of the | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| want to interject here that the principle of self-perpetuation which I have explained on a spiritual level | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| this vaster power, even underneath the strongest negative self-perpetuation, is contacted -- because such negative process is | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| finally leads to a breakdown of the negative self-perpetuation. Contrary to truth, love, and beauty, which are | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| if the universe were created differently and negative self-perpetuation continued ad infinitum. It could mean eternal hell | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| for what they are. This makes the negative self-perpetuation stronger and stronger, until the inflamed boil bursts | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| so chooses, the end of continually swelling negative self-perpetuation. When eruption comes, the choices of recognizing the | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| cherished convictions. Such challenge cuts out the negative self-perpetuation, the motor force that compounds the destructive, erroneous | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| substance. We have discussed the negative aspects of self-perpetuation. Of course, it exists primarily on the positive | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| exactly the same as that of the negative self-perpetuation. The only difference is that the positive process | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| them to unfold, they will increase themselves. The self-perpetuation takes over once these energies are released and | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| you in a lecture on the phenomenon of self-perpetuation, and I illustrated how a denied feeling compounds | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| Self-pity...................75 | |
| it is related to today's theme. This is self-pity, which often strengthens the feelings of world weariness | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| one time or another. Whenever you wallow in self-pity, you are unconsciously remembering an earlier reaction, when | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| the gravity of the situation. By wallowing in self-pity you try to reproduce this remembered feeling, but | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| from clinging tightly to the ego with its self-pity, vanity, cowardice and pride -- in short, everything | 7 ASKING FOR HELP AND HELPING OTHERS |
| throw you off balance. The price is: no self-pity, no self-delusion, utter severance with the little ego | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| spiritual law, embrace life wholeheartedly, without fear, without self-pity, without being afraid of being hurt. And only | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| about yourself in a destructive way filled with self-pity, complaining about your fate, and brooding unproductively about | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| do not flinch from unhappiness in distorted self-love, self-pity, and cowardice. If you learn from the hard | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| admit your refusal to be unhappy. By defiance, self-pity, wanting to flee life or escape your trouble | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| feeling it unjust, and often even wallow in self-pity while you prevent yourself from breaking the chains | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| yourself, in overcoming your resistance and sluggishness and self-pity. You should never believe even for an instant | 48 THE LIFE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE |
| on your own state of mind. Bitterness, anger, self-pity, all these block the life force. Remember that | 48 THE LIFE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE |
| of self-love, would you care to elaborate on self-pity and egocentricity? ANSWER: It goes without saying that | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| did not use this particular word. As for self-pity, let us examine what such pity of the | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| that is not self-caused will ever indulge in self-pity! If you are sorry for yourself, you have | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| that will truly make you free and independent. Self-pity is a complete rejection of self-responsibility. It expresses | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| escapes your attention. Or you might enjoy the self-pity that ensues. Let us suppose that you are | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| Weltschmerz? ANSWER: That is just one aspect, as self-pity is, for instance. But the crasser form of | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| a guilt feeling inevitably contains an element of self-pity. Without self-pity there could be no guilt feeling | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| feeling inevitably contains an element of self-pity. Without self-pity there could be no guilt feeling. The true | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| contains no guilt. If it is free of self-pity, of the flavor of Poor me. I could | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| problem. You will then not wallow in damaging self-pity, but will grow sufficiently to shed those tendencies | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| or intense. This sadness will be free of self-pity and it will not be a real hardship | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| reaction in people. Your emotions become full of self-pity: Poor little me, I am not good enough | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| may be plunged in darkness, rebellion, cowardice and self-pity -- the outcome will be happiness to the | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| When these goals are not obtained, rebellion and self-pity set in, with no conscious awareness of the | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| called Weltschmerz? ANSWER: Not necessarily. Usually in Weltschmerz self-pity predominates, while the emotion we just discussed is | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| fear, helplessness -- and most indicative of all, self-pity. Once you ascertain these feelings, it will not | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| unjustly treated. So you wallow in guilt and self-pity. This makes you more dependent and helpless -- | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| entering a benign circle, negative emotions such as self-pity, helplessness, hostility, guilt, and resentment are bound to | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| of loss does not contain the fear, bitterness, self-pity, struggle, and hardness contained in the pain of | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| very core of humanity is pity, and indeed, self-pity, because if a person does not have self-pity | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| self-pity, because if a person does not have self-pity, he is not selfish. If a person is | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| of every human being there is pity, indeed, self-pity. No, this is not true. Either pity or | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| No, this is not true. Either pity or self-pity is the result, or the symptom, not even | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| be unselfish. Although it is human to have self-pity, it is also human not to have it | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| where there may be feelings of helplessness, weakness, self-pity, of being subjected to the misery of life | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| feeling and responding to aspects of reality. But self-pity and depression are not. Boredom is not. Life | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| with illusion. But beware of believing that your self-pity, bitterness, futility due to shallow living -- no | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| difference between these entirely contrary feelings: sadness, and self-pity mixed with futility. When you cringe away from | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| your failure would affect me. The self-indulgent, lazy self-pity of the weak makes stringent demands on their | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| perhaps, guarding against recognizing something, and using justification, self-pity, hopelessness, or a superficial rationalization, blaming outer circumstances | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| define the difference. In sadness you accept without self-pity a painful fact of life as something beyond | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| us clearly see exactly what is unhealthy. Take self-pity, which is always a byproduct of depression. It | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| if you are willing to see it. In self-pity you are unwilling to see the way out | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| running away from yourself and to strengthen your self-pity. Thus you subtly exert a forcing current upon | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| pamper myself? Do I wish to be in self-pity? Or can I just calmly look at myself | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| inner weeping, which is really a kind of self-pity. It cannot be stressed enough how important it | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| hostility, humiliation, pride and shame, hurt, arrogance, self-importance, self-pity, insistence on unreasonable demands, and many more. You | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| and revolves around the same pointless thoughts, complaints, self-pity, self-deceptive ideas and subterfuges, it will, of necessity | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| you become angry, resentful, and often full of self-pity. However, none of these emotions may be conscious | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| your liking, the corroding effects will be rebellion, self-pity, and putting the blame on life and the | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| result of natural growth -- brings disharmony, resentment, self-pity, and invites unjust exploitation. A good example is | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| and the results of both are loneliness, resentment, self-pity, self-contempt, and frustration. When two people involved in | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| of negative emotions such as fear, hostility, separateness, self-pity, ambivalence, and vindictiveness. These emotions make love impossible | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| the bad. Ungenuine love is always connected with self-pity, resentment, hostility, and conflict. There is in it | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| struggle, in a mood of complaining, resentment, and self-pity. Meanwhile, you ignore: a) the intensity of the | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| the tense state is great, for anger and self-pity offer a substitute gratification. The ego must make | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| give but to take, to harbor hostility and self-pity -- exists. Your discovery of this will facilitate | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| a number of other emotions, such as sadness, self-pity, pain, healthy aggression, and self-assertion. All negative energy | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| choice. You would rather indulge in resentments and self-pity, in making cases against others, in the illusion | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| the claim to be constantly injured -- your self-pity, self-victimization, resentments, blame of others whom you make | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| overcome the temptation to indulge in resignation and self-pity. Therefore I say to you: Realize that you | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| the pain of nonfulfillment. You will teeter between self-pity and bitterness, between projection onto others and life | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| Accepting the law of personal responsibility wipes out self-pity, resignation, passive endurance, smoldering resentments against the injustices | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| that something is wrong about his or her self-pity, accusations, and anger. Whenever you find false guilt | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| to our self-produced fate. We can dwell in self-pity, resentments, and helplessness and thus increase our weakness | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| overcoming the often strong temptation to indulge in self-pity, resentment, complaining, and accusing -- overtly or covertly | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| given them to me. I will overcome all self-pity and exaggerated fear because I know that they | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| now manifest as hostility, envy, hatred, rage, bitterness, self-pity, or blame -- can become a creative power | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| therefore of desirable life experience -- furthers bitterness, self-pity, accusation, spite. The negative attitudes bring more and | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| against life will decrease. Anger, fear, resentment and self-pity create tightness and brittleness. They numb you to | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| in subsequent situations. Displaced and denied sadness becomes self-pity, hopelessness, depression. These emotions are indeed debilitating and | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| that position, always hoping that your resentful, blaming self-pity and helplessness will convince life, others, fate, to | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| best in life. False, defensive pain contains bitterness, self-pity, resentments -- thus it destroys peace. Real pain | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |