| Blamed......................9 | |
| overwhelming that outside factors can no longer be blamed for the pain inflicted by the wrong conclusions | 38 IMAGES |
| you look unconsciously for something you cannot be blamed for. Thus you argue with your inner voice | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| fact, you did nothing that you could be blamed for. Your actions were correct, your intentions were | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| personality will have to recognize that he has blamed one or both parents for his unhappiness, even | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| be denied or rationalized; other circumstances may be blamed. In reality, it is your wish to hide | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| outlet. To look for scapegoats who can be blamed for these unpleasant feelings and reactions is a | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| painful tension in the system, which is always blamed on others -- how they have failed you | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| by the concept that either oneself should be blamed -- for whatever it may be -- or | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| the woman made herself an object and then blamed the man for this mutual creation. Both sexes | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
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| the entire blame for the failure and so blames his or her surroundings. So a particular vicious | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| unconscious distortions exist in both parties. One alternately blames the other, or assumes self-blame. It takes time | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| causes self-contempt and resentment toward others, whom he blames for the unpleasant results of his weakness. Or | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| whatever reason. Then look for the side that blames others even if only subtly, indirectly and secretly | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| is, of course, an impossibility for which he blames and hates them even more. This same attitude | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| is especially irrational. One of the things he blames his parents most for is that he was | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| that it constantly passes unnoticed. One human being blames the other, one country blames the other, one | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| One human being blames the other, one country blames the other, one group blames the other. This | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| other, one country blames the other, one group blames the other. This is a constant process at | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| More specifically, the personality invariably feels unjustly victimized, blames others or life, is resentful, withdraws good feelings | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| otherwise? One can never trust somebody whom one blames and spites, whether this be another person, life | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| in the negative pleasure of negative thoughts, suspicions, blames, and accusations which may or may not be | 248 THREE PRINCIPLES OF THE FORCES OF EVIL -- PERSONIFICATION OF EVIL |
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| way of pushing away what creates uneasiness, or blaming others and circumstances to avoid the necessity to | 9 PRAYER AND MEDITATION -- THE LORD'S PRAYER |
| recognize their voices. Do not feel I am blaming you, nor should you blame yourself when you | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| is infinitely better than the primitive reaction of blaming God for one's disappointments and the failures of | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| difficulty, recognizing one's own responsibility instead of vaguely blaming the injustice of the law, constitutes true humility | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| make you despair of yourself; self-justification -- the blaming of others for real or imagined wrongs that | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| a false God-image exists in you, you keep blaming God, perhaps unconsciously. You believe that somehow it | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| do not use the word in a moralizing, blaming, admonishing way, but philosophically. It indicates one basic | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| a particular field. You may rationalize it by blaming a truly stringent actual situation. Nevertheless, underneath you | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| using justification, self-pity, hopelessness, or a superficial rationalization, blaming outer circumstances? Test yourself very carefully and you | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| occurs, you will experience a certain fluctuation between blaming the other and blaming yourself. When you do | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| a certain fluctuation between blaming the other and blaming yourself. When you do not go to the | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| extricate yourself from this pattern of inner behavior. Blaming brings in its wake other destructive attitudes: stubbornness | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| the truth of your saying no and then blaming others -- and denying the blame as well | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| When you reverse the old habit pattern of blaming others and circumventing what you fear, something quite | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| in a vicious circle. The destructive projections and blaming of others consumes the energy you need for | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| happens to them to the self, rather than blaming outside factors for their suffering. This is why | 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS |
| responsible for what he must give to himself. Blaming life for one's unhappiness is another way of | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| before it, when you projected your unhappiness outside, blaming the world, blaming others, and not seeing the | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| you projected your unhappiness outside, blaming the world, blaming others, and not seeing the cause in you | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| to frustration and discontent, as well as to blaming others for the lack. This in turn elicits | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| a search, being still in a state of blaming the other and depending on the other's doing | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| the trap of projection, self-justification, self-righteous exoneration while blaming others on the one hand, or, on the | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| honest expression to them, without finding excuses or blaming others, but not feeling hopeless and self- rejecting | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| contraction also include anger and hate, disappointment and blaming. When self-acceptance makes mutuality possible and energy is | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| more energy and you must also be less blaming and accusing of others. Self-blame and self- accusation | 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL |
| angry at life, less resentful of others, less blaming, less vindictive and spiteful, less self-pitying. Hence you | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| affects its counterpart in others. Mutual accusation, self-righteous blaming, the compulsion to build a case against the | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| refutation of self-responsibility and to the insistence on blaming life or others for your misery. There must | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| with self- responsibility. If you remain stuck on blaming your parents, making them and life responsible, you | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| difficult to rationalize a case and produce a blaming accusation. One can always find actual, imagined, or | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| your heart of hearts you are really angry, blaming, punishing, and self-victimizing because your imagined real need | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| also discover how you have remained hooked on blaming. For no matter how much your parents failed | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| isolation, loneliness, lovelessness, hate, and spite, instead of blaming some fate that befalls the innocent you, is | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| on that position, always hoping that your resentful, blaming self-pity and helplessness will convince life, others, fate | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| ignore a reaction of ill will, envy, or blaming resentment in yourself in spite of being aware | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| will punish you by hating you and by blaming you even more. Those who are at the | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| Therefore, when you end the old pattern of blaming others in order to justify your unfairness and | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| by denial and acting out, with projecting and blaming others, that it seems at times impossible for | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| this. Emotionally you still have a stake in blaming others and exonerating yourself. This always means that | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| blame yourself, the more you are hooked on blaming, and the greater your investment in doing so | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| right or wrong desire to the topic of blaming. You desire to blame because you do not | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| of here is entirely different from making a blaming demand, which truly puts the responsibility on the | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| When you no longer have a stake in blaming, you can truly speak up. You are no | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| always requires projecting your real guilt on others, blaming, self-whitewashing, hypocrisy, and so on. Therefore you become | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| the extent you still have a stake in blaming others for your state. You then must struggle | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| for self-responsibility is still confused with the previous blaming, arrogant, punitive attitude. Thus human beings are weakened | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| you can rule just as much by dependency, blaming, and making the other person feel guilty. If | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| honesty, perseverance, patience, and humility. Humility means not blaming the universe for your poverty in a particular | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| and repression lead to self-justification, destructive guilt and blaming of others. Your pathwork helps you to shed | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| and turn it on yourself: to change from blaming and resenting to seeing your own hatred, your | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| say that the stronger the rebellion and the blaming of the opposite sex, the stronger must also | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| You also defend yourself against recognizing this by blaming, accusing, resenting, and closing your heart and your | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| selfishness, your lack of concern, your unlovingness, your blaming, and your resenting others for the results of | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| solution to self-love, which is self- indulgence and blaming others. You all know on your path how | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| pseudo-solution of loving yourself by indulging yourself, by blaming others, by excusing and justifying your own lower-self | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| pride and to give up your stake in blaming. This is what communication entails on an emotional | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |