| Tender......................7 | |
| their loved ones, to force them to be tender, sympathetic, considerate! Many other forms exist as well | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| spot. Its very aliveness comes forth from a tender and soft center. When children are hurt and | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| that hold you together with love are still tender and new. But they will strengthen as you | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| and unlovingly devaluing yourself, you can also be tender with yourself. A beautiful balance will emerge clearly | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| a meditation of the deepest sort you bestow tender love upon every aspect of your manifestation; every | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| of love for you. The universe extends its tender love to each one of you, as individuals | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| you, the knowledge that you live in a tender universe, shaped out of personal love and caring | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| Tenderness..................14 | |
| just name a few: compassion, pity, respect, admiration, tenderness, protectiveness, helpfulness, kindness, truth. Yes, my friends, without | 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL |
| because enveloping the other with warmth, comfort, and tenderness is more important than what might happen to | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| who seems to reject it. When this exclusive tenderness and affection is not forthcoming, the child feels | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| imagined weakness, of being yourself with all the tenderness and understanding, with all the sympathy and vulnerability | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| heart and kindness, manifesting it with warmth and tenderness, the disagreement does not matter. Each one of | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| absolutely unbearable to you that your love, your tenderness, might not be reciprocated. It would seem like | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| You may give things, money, good deeds, even tenderness and concern, but they are hollow gifts without | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| out of you. These aspects of love include tenderness, warmth, respect, and also the recognition of the | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| as much an expression of love as is tenderness. If you can be firm with yourself, as | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| self's desire to act out will create self-honor, tenderness, and deep appreciation for the self. The distortion | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| highest creation in poise, in ease, and with tenderness. They embrace the structure and breathe and expand | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| being in a universe that consists of such tenderness, such love, such personal care of the living | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| eros, and sex; of affection and respect; of tenderness and passion; of trust and mutual partnership; of | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| His arms, consoled and encouraged by His sublime tenderness for you personally, rocked with all the comfort | 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION |
| Tending.....................3 | |
| all of you hope to accomplish this without tending to your emotional growth. You want to believe | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| being without awareness. He lives unto the day, tending to his immediate needs. As yet the mind | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| root and can sprout compares to the gardener tending the soil, seeing that it has sufficient light | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| Tense.......................82 | |
| is both a great strength and a little tense strength in you. As long as you do | 24 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| lessen your efforts -- which should never be tense -- you will find it easier and finally | 24 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| from the outer will must make a person tense and will only delay the process. The inner | 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL |
| If you push against it, if your muscles tense up, an incision will be much more painful | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| for love becomes more and more strained and tense with weak, unhealthy, and completely immature motives. Since | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| desire, yet it may be unhealthy. Unhealthy and tense desires are always linked with fear. In certain | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| this is the case, your desire automatically becomes tense. It becomes a need, and therefore fear must | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| You will then see that what made you tense with fear and anxiety was as illusory as | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| or has certain faults, you may feel all tense and full of anxiety. If you analyze these | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| laws of the universe. The outer will is tense, impatient, and cramped. The inner will is calm | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| can also feel so impatient, so urgent, so tense that you are all tied up in knots | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| strength, a strength that does not make you tense. This work is very important for you, my | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| the mere fact that the outer will is tense and impatient prohibits the inner will from unfolding | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| you sad, but it will never make you tense, or compulsive, or intense. This sadness will be | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| with a quiet, calm mind, and not with tense urgency. You should keep in mind and accept | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| constantly have your mind poised, let alone be tense in your mind. You do not have to | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| you may inwardly feel ill at ease, guilty, tense, full of anxiety or impatience. In other words | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| your real self, which is right underneath the tense, compulsive, emotional behavior pattern. Once you stop believing | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| unearth this deep-rooted misconception, which creates a tight, tense current -- the forcing current. It creates constant | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| passivity. Those of you who have encountered the tense nucleus which loudly claims, I want will feel | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| you persevere in this work. Find the harsh, tense, rigid, and at the same time wavering current | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| truly is, once you dissolve the fearful and tense inner clamoring, I want, I must. When the | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| wish fulfillment and your feelings still remain as tense and unfree as before, there must be something | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| When you struggle away from something frightening, you tense up and pull away. This very pull in | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| let it shoot out, but still in a tense, cramped motion. Both movements were tense and cramped | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| in a tense, cramped motion. Both movements were tense and cramped, one pressing down, the other shooting | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| is out of proportion to reality. You are tense and anxious with such a person and perceive | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| of them. Healthy anger will never make you tense and guilty and ill at ease. Nor will | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| This knowledge should not make you impatient or tense, but rather help you to understand that you | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| difficulty in this respect, if you feel too tense, too harassed and impatient, if you believe that | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| what threatens you in others, and makes you tense and defensive, can be observed calmly, in the | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| emphasis, this expression, that action, this utterance, that tense muscle mean, unbeknown to the person. You will | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| All false ideas create disharmonious emotions, which create tense, harsh, rigid soul movements. Truthful concepts create relaxed | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| dislodged. I have often said that the more tense and strenuous your desire, the more an unconscious | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| what seems the unknown, by giving up the tense holding. Such letting go eventually results in full | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| This is why fear increases, and so does tense reluctance and stubbornness. You shrink more rigidly from | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| a truthful one. This means letting go of tense, anxious self-will and replace it with a relaxed | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| stagnation, on the other, mobility is viewed as tense effort. This is particularly important to understand, because | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| as opposed to a movement that is a tense, anxious, grabbing, striving effort. Seemingly, you have to | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| and guilt whips you into a striving, overly tense movement. You may not even be able to | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| inner faculties are left out of commission. This tense and anxious pushing occurs in a very subtle | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| different -- in an attitude of discontent and tense struggle, in a mood of complaining, resentment, and | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| the struggle toward health becomes all the more tense. That is the origin of pain. If the | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| the self is master, not in a tight, tense, hostile way, but in the sense that life | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| rebels against postponed gratification is angry, exclusive, negative, tense, and stubborn. All these traits defeat the life | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| any fulfillment you desire. If you feel inwardly tense and are unwilling to relax into an attitude | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| But often the temptation to remain in the tense state is great, for anger and self-pity offer | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| study but seeing how you yourself are inwardly tense about not getting your way. Or, perhaps, you | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| emotional realm. If the physical realm is muscularly tense and taut, the life force cannot enter the | 151 INTENSITY: AN OBSTACLE TO SELF-REALIZATION |
| infinitely more adequate way than being in a tense state of war and defense. This new attitude | 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| organism vibrantly alive and growing. When the restricting, tense, congested movement pulls in automatically where it should | 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| more the conscious self strives and grasps. Such tense motion -- even toward the desired goal -- | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| understand this principle. People are habitually not only tense, but tense because of an intensity that is | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| principle. People are habitually not only tense, but tense because of an intensity that is directly related | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| felt as desirable and pleasurable, whereas the closing, tense state is felt as painful and undesirable. The | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| Freedom does not mean the cessation of the tense, closing movement -- for that would mean the | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| time, how often are humans overactive, coercive, and tense toward themselves as well as others, misunderstanding and | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| the same time, they become more and more tense and pushy toward their own processes. If people | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| cannot reveal itself. If the outer mind is tense and anxious and forces the unconscious, it is | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| it. Let it be. The more you inwardly tense up against pain, the more unbearable it becomes | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| in you changed. You became conscious of a tense insistence in one direction. As long as the | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| would not happen did you give up your tense insistence. Something in you relaxed -- you let | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| no longer aware that your outer musculature is tense in one area or another. This is quite | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| and know that this state exists underneath the tense areas, even before you actually experience it. Your | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| negative feelings, thus again tension. When you are tense, for whatever reason, you must be in error | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| to think, for this would only make you tense. Rather attempt it in the spirit of I | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| outer functioning deliberately relax. Then you will find tense areas of which you have not bee particularly | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| an ego state of pride, you must be tense, anxious, contracted. You cannot pretend when you are | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| or struggle against the self, no pushing or tense striving. In that state there is no harassment | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| effort must be disciplined and relaxed rather than tense and rigid. When you feel that relaxed effort | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| of fulfillment and self-expression. But if desire is tense, urgent, and contracted, it forms a block. Such | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| pay the price. This underlying denial creates too tense a desire. Therefore a kind of desirelessness must | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| and of the wrong kind because too much tense desire is present. In the final analysis such | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| desire is present. In the final analysis such tense desire comes from fear caused by the infantile | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| being closed to one thing, which creates a tense, urgent grabbing movement in the opposite direction, which | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| and covert it is, hidden, perhaps, beneath a tense, striving for fulfillment. Such overactivity may deceive you | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| disorderliness. When orderliness becomes compulsive and you are tense and obsessed, afraid and anxious when established routines | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| any pain, you will be so disconnected and tense that you will not even recognize, let alone | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| from the ego level, it will be a tense, anxiety-producing focusing. If you want to create from | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| of trust in the universe. It creates a tense, contracted energy system and prevents the flow of | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| your feelings that you do not know how tense, anxious and desirous you are. I mean a | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| of the struggle itself, will have ceased. The tense movement away from one and toward another goal | 253 CONTINUE YOUR STRUGGLE AND CEASE ALL STRUGGLE |