| Unselfishly.................6 | |
| it is all-important whether or not you act unselfishly because you truly want to or because you | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| and nursed constantly; the inner wish to help unselfishly should be expressed in prayer and intention. The | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| they are proud of their capacity to sacrifice unselfishly, of never claiming any knowledge, accomplishment, of strength | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| unjustified demands, and when to give and act unselfishly. Truthfulness with yourself finally helps you see where | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| of the word, has to want to give unselfishly. Unselfish giving must exist truly in your smallest | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| others. If you do not want to give unselfishly, you cannot assert your leadership. If you give | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| Unselfishness...............51 | |
| often people try to believe in their own unselfishness and in that way fool themselves about their | 14 THE HIGHER SELF, THE LOWER SELF, AND THE MASK |
| learn but also from their helpful attitude and unselfishness. So this will work only for the good | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| needs an explanation. True love, true kindness, true unselfishness is unthinkable without courage. Meditate on what courage | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| human being would not have otherwise: impulses of unselfishness and affection he or she might have been | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| quite clearly, Is it really pure goodness, pure unselfishness if I do such and such? You become | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| to replace hatred, resentment, aggression with love and unselfishness. But before you can do that, you must | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| in the little outer things but the outer unselfishness can camouflage your emotional selfishness or ego-centeredness. You | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| part you discover behind the first mask of unselfishness, believing that now at last you are true | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| you discover. You will grasp that your former unselfishness was ineffective because it was false, not because | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| was ineffective because it was false, not because unselfishness as such is ineffective. This approach will lead | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| which is one of the fundamental requirements for unselfishness and the capacity to love. The more you | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| find the other you - - therefore as unselfishness and lack of egocentricity, as search for union | 55 THREE COSMIC PRINCIPLES: THE EXPANDING, THE RESTRICTING, AND THE STATIC PRINCIPLES |
| able to be selfish. On the other hand, unselfishness is considered virtuous, but is really a burden | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| truth, this or any other. With this insight, unselfishness will no longer be a compulsive burden one | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| one's happiness, in the belief that it constitutes unselfishness. If you are happy, you will make others | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| It has nothing to do with selfishness or unselfishness. ANSWER: I know, but I also know what | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| am speaking about your concepts of selfishness and unselfishness. People very frequently think -- and if they | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| is to suppress it and superimpose a compulsive unselfishness that is not genuine. Out of the superimposition | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| in your interest. Or, to put it differently, unselfishness is healthily selfish. I said before that performing | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| compulsion. This, in turn, will show you that unselfishness is not a yoke that you have to | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| Instead, you will see without a doubt that unselfishness is really selfish in a healthy sense, and | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| a greater, others to a lesser extent. Love, unselfishness, emotion, sympathy, affection and so on are valid | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| All this is covered with the rationalization of unselfishness, sacrifice, and your ability to love. In truth | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| believe that your submissiveness is true sacrifice and unselfishness. Only very close analysis and insight will show | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| feel you have to decide between pleasure and unselfishness, both of which are part of the divine | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| degree. So the difficult choice between happiness and unselfishness exists only in the relative time element. When | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| these trends are signs of their goodness, holiness, unselfishness. When they sacrifice in order to finally possess | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| their real and healthy form. Warmth, affection, communication, unselfishness: all that is despicable, and whenever an impulse | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| are happy, you must be selfish, while all unselfishness automatically goes against your interest and gratification. Needless | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| the inner understanding and conviction that happiness and unselfishness are not incompatible. QUESTION: You said in the | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| to change. Mature responsibility also requires love and unselfishness. Find where, why, how these are lacking when | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| be questioned, whether it be faith in God, unselfishness, or love for others. Each of these can | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| the idealized self. Goodness means also self-sacrifice and unselfishness. Yet this contradicts the claim for special treatment | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| flexible adjustment; the needs for ego-gratification and for unselfishness. These, and many other apparently contradictory needs and | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| you the feeling that you have love, generosity, unselfishness, and kindness. Only this thin layer assures you | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| can you truly convince yourself of your potential unselfishness. This requires the courage that comes into being | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| level of reality. You cannot reconcile fulfillment and unselfishness, so you remain undecided; you continue to vacillate | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| and reward covers up the deep despair that unselfishness brings deprivation, so one is forced to hold | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| In this duality, all these contradict goodness and unselfishness and must therefore be sacrificed. The opposite facet | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| You must be good, or else! Goodness and unselfishness then mean renunciation of bliss. The harmfulness of | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| is wrong, bad, undesirable, while all kinds of unselfishness are laudable, good, right. One rarely makes the | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| grow, expand, evolve. Concomitantly, one rarely notices that unselfishness can be a sick manifestation of self-destructiveness and | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| onto others by buying them with my false unselfishness, through enslavement, through making myself feel so unselfish | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| divine kernel, which itself becomes your anchor. False unselfishness makes you lose this center. You are then | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| it is as selfish as it is unselfish. Unselfishness is selfishness, and vice versa. Sacrificial unselfishness always | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| unselfish. Unselfishness is selfishness, and vice versa. Sacrificial unselfishness always implies an inner bargaining, a secret desire | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| a path in which unhappiness is equated with unselfishness, which is equated with being a good person | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| underlying emotions. The greater the outer, assumed, sacrificial unselfishness becomes, the more the ensuing rage and hostility | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| When selfishness is deemed to be bad and unselfishness good, regardless of the how and why, duality | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| become a unification. For example, instead of seeing unselfishness versus selfishness, you will truly see that healthy | 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF |
| consciousness. They cannot differentiate between healthy selfishness and unselfishness as two expressions of the same source. But | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| Unshakable..................3 | |
| as essentially unique, separate and peculiarly your own, unshakable and untransmittable. You are the only one who | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| not mere words, my friends. They are the unshakable reality that can be verified by anyone who | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| how it may hurt you, you experience the unshakable truth of your core. Then your sense of | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| Unsolved....................8 | |
| that you do not escape what is yet unsolved in you. This may surprise you, my friends | 27 ESCAPE POSSIBLE ALSO ON THE PATH |
| perhaps be better to concentrate on a heretofore unsolved psychological problem. For entities of higher development--all this | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| of a long chain. The child brings along unsolved problems which can find solution in the very | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| unconscious fears and blocks are still unrecognized and unsolved. Forcing will not bring a happy solution. But | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| entirely unconscious. Or it may be that an unsolved problem, an unconscious deviation of the hypnotist, may | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| favorable effect, even upon those who still have unsolved problems of this sort. This law always works | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| accomplished only through the work of self-search. Wherever unsolved problems and conflicts exist in the soul, a | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| with fear and uncertainty. When inner problems remain unsolved, as you know, the fear of the unknown | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| Unsound.....................3 | |
| allow your inner economics to become fraudulent and unsound. The temporary pain of exposing your debts, your | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| reality of poverty. You cannot trust that your unsound managing can be changed, that you can indeed | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| avoid the necessary bankruptcy. You grab outer, temporary, unsound means to coast along on pretense and cherish | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| Unspiritual.................5 | |
| if you were still affected by the often unspiritual influences of your usual surroundings. Developing a concise | 36 PRAYER |
| and selfishness, all the causes of war, are unspiritual. But many people still find themselves in such | 45 THE CONFLICT BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS DESIRES |
| he vaguely feels that this is unkind or unspiritual, he wavers. This wavering, in itself, makes the | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| saying that pleasure is wrong and frivolous and unspiritual. You may have your own private excuse to | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| people who have led a difficult and apparently unspiritual life have done more for the universal process | 193 RÉSUMÉ OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE PATHWORK: ITS AIM AND PROCESS |