| Valves......................5 | |
| aloneness and relating have their own, built-in safety valves: each preserves the self in its separate state | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| universe. I let go of the known safety valves, the familiar ego habits of finding security and | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| would be totally in opposition to the safety valves they have created. The rebelling Christians need reinforcement | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| universe can allow destruction to exist without safety valves. It is the fear that nothing has rhyme | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| will help you to open up your inner valves to intuitive experiences. You already know that every | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| Vanished....................3 | |
| all resistance to unknown areas in oneself has vanished so that one no longer fears oneself, one | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| and had to passively wait until the resistance vanished by itself. It seldom occurs to you to | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| direction -- and, lo and behold, the desperation vanished. Completely unexpected solutions appeared. Only by having reached | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| Vanishes....................15 | |
| how the sense of shame and embarrassment completely vanishes. But before it is out, while you are | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| what I am describing. But then the experience vanishes, and you are back in the old state | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| be it fear or anything else. Since fear vanishes only after it is faced, met, and come | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| weakening sentimentality. When fear of true deep feelings vanishes, the psyche no longer needs to produce falsely | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| modern psychology and spiritual, metaphysical or philosophical ideas vanishes. The so-called spiritual, and until that moment, theoretical | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| and fear of oneself in connection with others vanishes, and therefore true relatedness becomes possible. Self-fulfillment also | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| to take place when the fear of it vanishes. The same principle applies to many other aspects | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| assimilate it. In that way, the threat soon vanishes. The restricting movement does not cramp up and | 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| under the proper circumstances, and as this fear vanishes, the new fears can be tackled: the fear | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| a manifestation of the latter. When the separation vanishes, the illusion vanishes as well -- namely that | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| the latter. When the separation vanishes, the illusion vanishes as well -- namely that you are a | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| In the peaceful state of self-realization all intensity vanishes. This statement is confusing only when you associate | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| suddenly unify without a breach of logic. Fear vanishes, and life becomes unending pleasure just because its | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| need to live in fear, but the fear vanishes only when you go into it and expose | 194 MEDITATION: LAWS AND VARIOUS APPROACHES-SUMMARY (MEDITATION AS POSITIVE LIFE CREATION) |
| face every particle of the self, the difficulty vanishes. And what first seemed a difficulty now begins | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| Vanities....................6 | |
| terribly important, whose own little pains and hurt vanities do not matter so much, who do not | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| It means that you consider your own hurt vanities, advantages, goals no differently from those of other | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| cannot happen unless you overcome your fears and vanities; unless you find and dissolve the obstructions in | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| negative, destructive traits, weaknesses, little selfishnesses, cruelties, and vanities that often make you vindictive and unloving and | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| I want to overcome the false shames, prides, vanities that make me hide behind pretenses, and the | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| you are deeply willing to forgo the little vanities for the sake of the greater truth, with | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| Vanity......................85 | |
| face themselves again and again -- and here vanity is an insurmountable obstacle -- can gain true | 1 THE SEA OF LIFE |
| that prefers the road of least resistance and vanity, practices self-deception and thrives on discord. But, in | 1 THE SEA OF LIFE |
| become more important than the I with its vanity and pride. Then the feeling of unfulfillment, of | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| the extent of your ego, your oversensitivity, your vanity, your pride, and how they play their part | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| false dignity, which is based on pride and vanity. Such wrong currents in the soul then produce | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| wants to forget itself and not take its vanity, pride, and personal advantages so seriously. Such an | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| so much importance to your pain, to your vanity, and to your fears. Only by minimizing the | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| this would give them power and flatter their vanity. But an evolved spirit of God does not | 6 THE HUMAN ROLE IN THE SPIRITUAL AND MATERIAL UNIVERSES |
| are still imperfect, you feel devastated because your vanity is wounded. Not to accept yourself as you | 7 ASKING FOR HELP AND HELPING OTHERS |
| clinging tightly to the ego with its self-pity, vanity, cowardice and pride -- in short, everything that | 7 ASKING FOR HELP AND HELPING OTHERS |
| and will not recoil from it in cowardice, vanity, and oversensitivity, will indeed receive the truth. Your | 8 MEDIUMSHIP -- HOW TO CONTACT GOD'S SPIRIT WORLD |
| the medium is sufficiently open and free of vanity. When you test several mediums -- and they | 8 MEDIUMSHIP -- HOW TO CONTACT GOD'S SPIRIT WORLD |
| way connected to God's spirit world. Ego, power, vanity, pride, craving for admiration can be just as | 9 PRAYER AND MEDITATION -- THE LORD'S PRAYER |
| path of self-development, then neither material self-interest nor vanity or any other obstacle will stand in the | 9 PRAYER AND MEDITATION -- THE LORD'S PRAYER |
| for whatever reasons -- laziness, love of comfort, vanity, or shame -- all of which make him | 10 MALE AND FEMALE INCARNATIONS: THEIR RHYTHMS AND CAUSES |
| world will not seek to satisfy its own vanity. It will not demand admiration for itself. It | 11 SELF-KNOWLEDGE -- THE GREAT PLAN -- THE SPIRIT WORLD |
| to be done through objective self-analysis and self-testing. Vanity or the desire to impress other people may | 11 SELF-KNOWLEDGE -- THE GREAT PLAN -- THE SPIRIT WORLD |
| you dislike putting aside your ego or your vanity, or whatever else it may be, enables you | 11 SELF-KNOWLEDGE -- THE GREAT PLAN -- THE SPIRIT WORLD |
| your ego and to your little sensitivity or vanity, you do not give up your life; rather | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| have to train yourself that your pain, your vanity, and your comfort do not matter an iota | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| and always has a great deal of personal vanity. It is the ego with all its manifestations | 14 THE HIGHER SELF, THE LOWER SELF, AND THE MASK |
| and undeveloped self. You have given up your vanity. You have given up some of your ego | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| your best because you desire gratification for your vanity? Is your desire to do your best diluted | 18 FREE WILL |
| adversity, crucifixion of the personal ego with its vanity and self-will: all this was symbolized by the | 19 JESUS CHRIST |
| that, my friends. For self-will and ego and vanity exist in every human being and are the | 21 THE FALL |
| is difficult for you to give up your vanity, or your selfishness, then that is where you | 21 THE FALL |
| Watch yourself first as you really are, without vanity, without wanting to be better or more than | 21 THE FALL |
| I must first, without fear or shame and vanity, face what is in me. Ask God to | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| your lower self, your ego, your hurt, your vanity that become involved when you are dealing with | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| love must be entirely free of ego, pride, vanity, and self-will. That is the answer. So you | 27 ESCAPE POSSIBLE ALSO ON THE PATH |
| convictions. QUESTION: What is the opposite aspect of vanity? ANSWER: Love and humility. For if you are | 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL |
| desire advantages for yourself, and that you have vanity. If you feel the humiliation of another person | 30 SELF-WILL, PRIDE AND FEAR |
| to muster up the same feelings of hurt vanity as though another human being were humiliated. No | 30 SELF-WILL, PRIDE AND FEAR |
| you learn to be more detached about this vanity of yours, then and only then will you | 30 SELF-WILL, PRIDE AND FEAR |
| higher plane than your brother. The moment your vanity and pride assume such importance, you are again | 30 SELF-WILL, PRIDE AND FEAR |
| of resentment? ANSWER: In the first place your vanity is not being gratified. Because humility is lacking | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| this layer exists the ego with all its vanity, pride, fear, and ambition. This ego layer believes | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| in the way, a good part of your vanity has not been overcome. If you cannot bring | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| were to make the effort to overcome such vanity and pride. All faults bar the way to | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| have dignity. In the measure that self-will, pride, vanity, and egotism are present in the soul, they | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| that somehow your view is subjective; perhaps your vanity was hurt, or you have unwittingly hurt the | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| was hurt, or you have unwittingly hurt the vanity of the other person, and emotional reactions followed | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| you build up for your ego, for your vanity, for your pride because of your still existing | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| myself that I am utterly free of selfishness, vanity, or whatever other trend may be involved. I | 45 THE CONFLICT BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS DESIRES |
| Are you going to be involved with your vanity, in self-righteousness? Must your little ego triumph? Or | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| except, perhaps, your little ego and your little vanity. But only by losing these can you become | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| do with selfishness. But when, in your petty vanity, you place disproportionate importance on your own person | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| inflict material disadvantage on another person. Your petty vanity, your need to be above others, even if | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| can then get rid of the pride, the vanity, the self-importance: you comprehend that there is no | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| too. Unhealthy motives, such as self- importance, pride, vanity, or the will to rule can exist only | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| not have a certain amount of selfishness and vanity. To reach for the great goal with all | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| your emotional currents show. Forget about your own vanity and insecurity and open your arms yourself, and | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| a personal fault or weakness, be it pride, vanity, self-will, rebellion, insecurity, frustration, or whatever. Even if | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| the need to triumph, the need to satisfy vanity or pride. In order to understand this particular | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| suppose you discover a need to gratify your vanity. You know perfectly well this is not a | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| Let us now examine a favorable emotion. Gratified vanity, greed, or pride may produce a pleasant emotion | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| small wish or a small gratification of your vanity overrules more important issues for other people. True | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| bearing on the present. It goes against your vanity, for you like to see yourself more evolved | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| The suffering could have been avoided if your vanity were not so strong. Awareness means acknowledgement of | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| plane, with its tightly held opinions, false ideas, vanity, pride, selfwill, and fear. When this live center | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| in trouble. Then individuality cannot unfold because ego, vanity, and ruthlessness take its place and automatically hinder | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| real universal laws. Perfectionism always comes from pride, vanity, the need to control others, pretense, and, last | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| is always a result of pride, selfwill, fear, vanity, greed, separateness, lovelessness, one-upmanship. In this way, you | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| This calls for self-testing, for removing defenses and vanity, for courage and truthfulness with the self. You | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| The self does not wish to expose its vanity, its cherished prejudices and illusions. Yet your total | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| seeing it, regardless of the hurt to my vanity. I want to be aware of how I | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| perfection also go away. False spiritual pride and vanity as well as false self- humiliation and shame | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| or exaggerates the implications -- again out of vanity and fear -- then the alternation of life | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| sustains and cultivates the ego: pride, selfwill, fear, vanity, separateness, duality, in sum, the belief that there | 194 MEDITATION: LAWS AND VARIOUS APPROACHES-SUMMARY (MEDITATION AS POSITIVE LIFE CREATION) |
| from the little ego, following the dictates of vanity, greed, laziness, and dishonesty, so can you create | 200 THE COSMIC FEELING |
| is therefore difficult only because people with their vanity have false ideas of how they should already | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| are too afraid of giving up your little vanity. Therefore your longing can never be fulfilled, for | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| not shy away from destroying my self-image, my vanity, my pride. For the truth and beauty and | 209 THE ROSCOE LECTURE: INSPIRATION FOR THE PATHWORK CENTER |
| within me are more important than my little vanity and my little self-righteousness. I dedicate my life | 209 THE ROSCOE LECTURE: INSPIRATION FOR THE PATHWORK CENTER |
| develops as you face the self-serving opportunism and vanity of your little ego. You grew into a | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| about shame? Shame is the emotion concerned with vanity and appearance. Perhaps you are ashamed to expose | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| you are centered within your divine self, then vanity and egotism stop. Vanity and egotism exist if | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| your divine self, then vanity and egotism stop. Vanity and egotism exist if the search for the | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| will, is based almost exclusively on self-seeking and vanity -- in other words, what others will think | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| I realize that there is a lot of vanity and pride related to my outer will that | 228 BALANCE |
| place that is not ego-involved, not steeped in vanity or pride. And that is possible right now | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| an instrument fulfilling a task without pride and vanity for a higher cause of the deepest significance | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| the inner greed, jealousy, envy, tight ambitiousness and vanity involved here, not to mention the very imperfect | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| ego's perfection that is based on pride, comparison, vanity, fear of your own insufficiency. You need to | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| images, appearances, idealized self-images were nourished; pride and vanity were elevated into false moral values. If you | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |