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| so insecure that you resort to such defective defensive measures. This behavior falls into the same category | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| amount to. Thus, you use pride as a defensive measure, as a means to an end. This | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| evil on this plane is nothing but a defensive weapon, or rather, a pseudo-defensive weapon, for in | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| armor, so as not to be on the defensive? ANSWER: If you are afraid of being on | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| If you are afraid of being on the defensive, you must find yourself guilty, otherwise you would | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| bargain you wanted to make by assuming a defensive, wrong inner attitude has much stronger repercussions that | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your drive becomes to make them work. This defensive reaction causes the rigidity. Growth, development, maturity and | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| unreal needs. Simultaneously, train yourself to feel your defensive wall. Observe it in action. Feel its existence | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| your behavior and reaction when you feel the defensive wall in you, and when you do not | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| to close the circle and recognize that this defensive wall brings the very unfulfillment you wanted to | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| used to all these false levels, these superimposed, defensive layers, that they have become second nature, and | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| on your surroundings when you are no longer defensive, fearful, withdrawn, and falsely superior. You are then | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| happens to your entire system when you become defensive. Such knowledge will be very useful for your | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| these levels of your personality when you are defensive. You have begun to observe a hard knot | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| yourself up, meaning to protect yourself. However, this defensive reaction is so imbedded in you, and has | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| you are unaware that you are on the defensive. Therefore you have to understand more about this | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| lookout, and become more intensely aware of the defensive reaction so that you may get over it | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| get over it. When you are on the defensive, you are frightened; you feel threatened and endangered | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| the long run. When you are on the defensive in psychological conflicts, for irrational, unrealistic reasons, your | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| frightened, and every time you are on the defensive, you are frightened. Therefore, it is important that | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| unrealistic fears should cease, and being on the defensive for no valid reason be ruled out of | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| threats, because the state of being on the defensive has become second nature. This hinders your vision | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| and anger. If you are constantly on the defensive, however, the predominant feelings are fright and anger | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| over. When you are more or less permanently defensive because you believe, erroneously, that any hurt or | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| Actual dangers in which you need all your defensive equipment are encountered very rarely. You do not | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| and is bound to make the other person defensive. If free admission is not yet possible, perhaps | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| come when one does not go on the defensive, will have a similarly favorable effect. Only after | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| advantageous honesty is. Whenever you are on the defensive, your primary aim cannot be truth. When it | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| truth and reality any breathing space. Wherever a defensive wall is put up, your concern at that | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| deeply probe within to find and eliminate this defensive wall, so much hardship could be avoided in | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| to describe fully. When you are on the defensive you cannot fulfill the needs of others, not | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| erroneous judgement, could never harm you. The less defensive you are, the more adequate you will be | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| It is interesting to note that the more defensive a person is, the less equipped he is | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| from it. It is the same with the defensive wall. As long as you are unaware of | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| their feelings, still have certain feelings. The more defensive human beings are, the more limited the scope | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| not hate in return because they are not defensive. They are uninvolved and objective, and therefore they | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| force that they emanate. If you were less defensive, less self-willed, less concerned with rejection or the | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| negative currents and distortions, conflicts and fears, unconscious defensive measures and manipulations. It is not as easy | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| atone for the real guilt, or you become defensive and defiant because you vaguely feel guilty, without | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| fear of relinquishing one's false solutions, destructive attitudes, defensive walls -- all of which are supposed to | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| what respect you still feel unfree and obstructed, defensive and anxious, is of utmost importance. At certain | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| you in others, and makes you tense and defensive, can be observed calmly, in the way you | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| tentative, so uncertain, so fearful, so divided, so defensive and apprehensive that these negative emotions about the | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| because of your negative beliefs, you take a defensive position toward life, perpetuating the destructive trend. In | 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY |
| may be altogether different from what you feel defensive about. For example, you might try to exonerate | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| are both present. The latter engenders two fundamental defensive reactions: either the desire to hurt or the | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| kind of discipline. Both distortions create a heavy defensive wall in the soul substance, for both wish | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| refer to occasional physical threats, where a quick defensive tightening is automatic and healthy. That lasts a | 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| be touched by experience and therefore building a defensive wall against it. In order to come out | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| if you fear the painful experience, you are defensive, unspontaneous, and thus walled off from any kind | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| prevents finding the resources for meaningful action. The defensive attitude cripples vitality and joy and exudes negating | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| turn off your life centers because of your defensive fear of frustration, you perpetually frustrate yourself. A | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| adequately without withdrawing, without becoming in any way defensive, without becoming destructive with your own feelings. There | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| are: life's limitation and enmity against humanity; humanity's defensive pettiness of spirit; self-alienation; the false, destructive reaction | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| serenity, as you relinquish your negative attitudes and defensive games. When you are involved in the negative | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| others is largely a result of his own defensive hostility and rage. He seemed unable to move | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| correctness of the assumption, so that the destructive, defensive behavior will become more firmly entrenched in the | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| the exact opposite of living encased in your defensive walls, which completely separate you and create a | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| only where pain has not been experienced that defensive numbness occurs -- and hence neurosis, destructiveness, deadness | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| by your efforts on your path, and the defensive layer insulating you from these inner conditions has | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| rhyme or reason. You will consequently become frightened, defensive, distrustful, grabbing, anxious, and ruthless. Instead of changing | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| intent: to express the best in life. False, defensive pain contains bitterness, self-pity, resentments -- thus it | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| But do not, by any means, justify your defensive hardness by judging and doubting. This is your | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| choose to fortify, justify, and increase the old defensive and negative pattern. I say all this to | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| merely to rationalize the painful confusion, to build defensive cases, to justify one's own situation, or to | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| and interpretations are, you cannot give up the defensive negativity and come to really experience life. You | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| sooner or later be exposed. Therefore a protective, defensive tightness is put into both desires, which influences | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| other person, so that you are unsure and defensive about what you see -- and consequently militant | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| sense of mechanical, dead, alienated, superficial, unfeeling or defensive thinking. How can knowledge, knowing -- which is | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| a substantial part of your personality functions on defensive negative premises. As you deeply explore your mode | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| kind of frustration creates an inner tension and defensive structure that close up the vessel of the | 224 CREATIVE EMPTINESS |
| without the pretenses of your mask and your defensive games. Again this does not mean that you | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| on the surface you may be very indignant, defensive and argumentative, but inwardly cannot find your center | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| it. As you know, it is precisely those defensive maneuvers that reinforce your belief in your unacceptability | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| that this possibility even exists in creation. That defensive palliative seems perhaps less painful than admitting that | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| is already enlightened and loving or still unenlightened, defensive, hating, and fearful. So love is in everything | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| example, a person rigidly holds on to a defensive, obsolete attitude, does not want to give it | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| want to see it. At other times your defensive blocks blot out your own view, but they | 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION |