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| see yourself with all your faults, devoid of defensiveness and feelings of disharmony, as an uninvolved observer | 7 ASKING FOR HELP AND HELPING OTHERS |
| can all begin to see how predominant this defensiveness is. It may be subtle and not easy | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| of truth. It should be easily understood that defensiveness is not truth-producing. It does not give truth | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| deception, self-alienation and isolation must be the result. Defensiveness not only damages your physical body, but limits | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| willing to face it. In a state of defensiveness you do not perceive, experience, or think truthfully | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| life and reality is left out of consideration. Defensiveness can take many forms, as you know, in | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| others until a direct attack is launched. The defensiveness may be much stronger in calm, reticent people | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| understand -- and therefore eventually eliminate -- your defensiveness, you will be freed of an illusion. There | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| personal as well as in public life, than defensiveness. QUESTION: You say that the body releases poisons | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| course it is possible. If and when the defensiveness is eliminated, further poisons will cease to contaminate | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| feeling of annoyance is the proof of your defensiveness. Without defense, you would not be annoyed. How | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| adequately handled only to the degree that unrealistic defensiveness is absent. QUESTION: If the accusation covers a | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| again that the freer you are of unrealistic defensiveness, the better you will be able to cope | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| that of experiencing yourself, in awareness, in your defensiveness. This then, is the right approach. This is | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| question is already answered. Manipulation happens out of defensiveness and pseudo-needs. The one that is manipulated, whether | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| you could very easily, kindly, and without any defensiveness -- when it is the right thing and | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| nothing whatever. Always look deep into yourself, without defensiveness, without anxiety. And the more you look into | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| delight. Those who are caught in guardedness and defensiveness and who are constantly watching themselves so that | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| free from misconceptions. No false beliefs create fear, defensiveness, destructive emotions. Someone who is in truth perceives | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| maze of falseness and confusion in which uncertainty, defensiveness, and weakness may make you either retreat or | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| you are willing to let go of your defensiveness for the sake of truth, after you let | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| away from you. It is free from all defensiveness. It comes only as a result of true | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| Defiance....................28 | |
| and those who revolt against them out of defiance and ignorance -- either because they cannot as | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| you wait for the grace of God in defiance and anger, saying to yourself, Why can't I | 31 SHAME |
| pleasant ones. However, some people, through pride and defiance, choose an unfavorable one. Rejection is given only | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| openly admit your refusal to be unhappy. By defiance, self-pity, wanting to flee life or escape your | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| at yourself and act in a spirit of defiance, against yourself as well as the world at | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| disharmony, all the feeling of injustice or sadness, defiance or misery. Just turn your attention to your | 43 THREE BASIC PERSONALITY TYPES: REASON, WILL, EMOTION |
| their rebellion will be dimmed to a dull defiance. As far as the law-upholders are concerned, who | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| not conformity but the exact opposite. It is defiance, rebellion, and hate that make you hold the | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| misunderstanding -- that the remedy is not in defiance and rebellion against your dependence on other's opinions | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| often do you approach such a meeting with defiance, a negative attitude, doubt, and any number of | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| will also be important to find how much defiance and rebellion you needed to do that for | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| that for which you should not need either defiance or rebellion; how much fear and shame still | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| which is not the power of pride and defiance, neither the power to triumph over others, but | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| destructive kind of rebellion with its false strength, defiance, and cruelty; of the unhealthy guilt and self-accusation | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| consequences. In both cases the result is resentment, defiance, and hostility. None of it may be conscious | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| raw, undeveloped, primitive instincts in a spirit of defiance; or, you may harbor fear and guilt, thus | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| do not yet know, without guilt and without defiance. And as you find yourself -- and this | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| and the submission it requires, versus rebellion and defiance. True emancipation from the ego's outer rules requires | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| the equally destructive opposite extreme of rebellious, hostile defiance. She will be able to change effortlessly when | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| you may fall into the erroneous attitude of defiance and self-justification, because you believe that admitting your | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| This in turn elicits resentment, bitterness, anger, and defiance. The resulting confusion is torment for the soul | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| its limited state. Selfwill comprises stubbornness, resistance, spite, defiance, rigidity. All these attitudes connote a stiffening against | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| superimposing positive intent over unconscious irrational resistance and defiance. The two voices must be brought face to | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| to be, which you can then do without defiance and without playing your negative games. This real | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| can ever get to me. There is a defiance and a spite... ANSWER: Defiance, spite, stubbornness, rigidity | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| There is a defiance and a spite... ANSWER: Defiance, spite, stubbornness, rigidity are all derivatives of the | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| not in a spirit of hate, rebellion, competition, defiance, not by imitating the worst excesses and distortions | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| defiant about them. And you all know that defiance is nothing but an ill-advised attempt to shut | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| Defiant.....................8 | |
| here. As long as you feel sad, bitter, defiant, or disharmonious in any way when you encounter | 31 SHAME |
| Turn in the other direction. Instead of becoming defiant and hurt, turn inside, turn around, no matter | 43 THREE BASIC PERSONALITY TYPES: REASON, WILL, EMOTION |
| and turn into the opposite extreme with a defiant I don't care attitude, then you prove something | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| the real guilt, or you become defensive and defiant because you vaguely feel guilty, without being able | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| unquestioning, emotionally colored motivation, which outwardly seems courageously defiant, may be tainted with cowardice and opportunism. The | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| morally right or wrong. There is also a defiant refusal to recognize the keys contained in them | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| attached to nationality, or religious affiliation. Thus a defiant rigidity will no longer prevent people from finding | 238 THE PULSE OF LIFE ON ALL LEVELS OF MANIFESTATION |
| Instead of liberating their forces, they must be defiant about them. And you all know that defiance | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| Deficit.....................23 | |
| 250. INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT Greetings and blessings, my very beloved friends. The | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| a tendency in human nature to build on deficit, a tendency intrinsically connected with the belief in | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| unconscious or semi-conscious negative beliefs, you build on deficit. When you secretly believe that you are a | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| unlovable and unacceptable human being, you build on deficit. When your real and false guilts prevent you | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| yourself fully over to God, you build on deficit. When you assume the universe to be hostile | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| may rationalize and justify -- you build on deficit. Building on deficit can appear to succeed for | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| justify -- you build on deficit. Building on deficit can appear to succeed for a while. That | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| life and encourage the tendency of building on deficit. The methods I have given you to work | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| a healthy policy. You are constantly running on deficit, giving out in a distorted way that has | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| of lower-self giving are manifestations of building on deficit. False ways of giving may temporarily work on | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| and by destructive means that only increase the deficit. Then the fear and resistance to declaring the | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| poverty by pretending a false wealth, built on deficit. Your spiritual and emotional finances often manifest on | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| budget sessions for those who manifest their inner deficit on the outer level. In that way you | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| and you no longer have to run on deficit. Budget sessions, though they deal with the outer | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| when government is built on assets, not on deficit; on reserves, not on debts; on fullness, not | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| expose his or her inner poverty, pretense, and deficit. When governments practice predominantly injustice, live on greed | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| people, they always create not only a spiritual deficit, but inevitably also a material one. The thus | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| the inner meaning gets lost again, the same deficit will arise through different means. The forces of | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| out of fullness and do not run on deficit. This should not be done in a spirit | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| current tendency of your world to function on deficit. At the same time you need to establish | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| way. There may be temporary situations when a deficit on the material level may be unavoidable until | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| economy that functions on assets rather than on deficit. You must understand that this duplicates exactly the | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| and psychological levels and purify what runs on deficit. At the same time you need to also | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |