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however, that the power to handle the remaining aggressions also enables him or her to use the 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
and negativity the masculine principle manifests as hostile aggressions, hitting rather than giving and reaching. The feminine 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY
 
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will be a masquerade. It is true that aggressive and hostile strength and activity in a woman 62 MAN AND WOMAN
fore, preventing the active current from becoming too aggressive, rounding and mellowing it, taking the edges off 62 MAN AND WOMAN
what your imagined advantage is when you are aggressive and hostile. QUESTION: An armor, so as not 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT
immature. On the other hand, there is the aggressive tendency of desire for rulership, for mastery over 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
On the other hand, you unconsciously use the aggressive force to overcome your insecurity, your feelings of 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
thereby you also gain love. In reality the aggressive force, in its healthy way, is supposed to 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
a painful process. For instance, the effect of aggressive communication must be that the other soul withdraws 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
and cannot be considered good, ethical, or moral. Aggressive, hostile, proud, overambitious trends are glorified, or idealized 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
a harder time finding the pride, while the aggressive type will have a harder time finding the 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
denied, for to assert it seems brash and aggressive. This has to be avoided at all costs 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
an impulse of this sort is suspected, the aggressive type feels as deeply ashamed as the submissive 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
with each other. A further symptom of the aggressive type, who thinks that power is the solution 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
For such a goal one needs to be aggressive and often ruthless. An idealized self-image may therefore 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
for power glories in hostility and in an aggressive fighting spirit, the withdrawn type is entirely unaware 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
striving toward a distorted independence of either the aggressive or the withdrawn type. You also have to 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
into a false serenity or into a domineering aggressive, forbidding attitude. This makes the attainment of love 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
excessive demands, no less than those in the aggressive, power-driven person. You will find that just because 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
will cease being -- inwardly or outwardly -- aggressive where it is unjustified; and you will be 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
where it is unjustified; and you will be aggressive where it is healthy and constructive. One imbalance 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
no further, since the submissive person also has aggressive power aspects. So then the solution of superior 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
seems so opposite to the arrogance of the aggressive success-seeker who denies needs, underneath the submissiveness as 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
could have enjoyed. QUESTION: If you have an aggressive feeling and you don't like it, but it 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
hurts others less than the outright domineering and aggressive person. All pseudo-solutions bring untold pain to the 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
human nature, and thus hurt them. By the aggressive solution, you push people away and openly hurt 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
and place -- because he disapproves of his aggressive tendencies -- and asserting himself where reason indicates 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
-- and there are three basic ones: the aggressive, the submissive, and the withdrawal solutions -- they 143 UNITY AND DUALITY
to truth and peace, not one iota less aggressive than the submissive solution, whose hostility always smolders 143 UNITY AND DUALITY
therefore feel more themselves when they are hostile, aggressive, cruel. All human beings have a similar reaction 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER
to be. The other seems to be too aggressive, vigorous, forbidden. Hence, the spiritual pleasure of knowing 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION
a part of creation, difficulty in being healthily aggressive. Such an individual feels compelled to always submit 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS
if you are not sufficiently outgoing and healthily aggressive, or if you do not activate your own 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
the man who is not sufficiently active and aggressive is so throughout his total personality. He will 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
Let us say that you are outwardly forceful, aggressive, and temperamentally suited to get away with overriding 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD
claim that the spiritual person must never be aggressive or that the strong person must never be 228 BALANCE
call the balancing factor, for instance in the aggressive and receptive principles, a third force? ANSWER: No 228 BALANCE
highly volatile creative expression, it is active and aggressive in the best sense of the word. It 235 THE ANATOMY OF CONTRACTION
are often assumed to be victims of the aggressive, bold ones. Thus, on some irrational level of 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA
active and potent evil as the more obvious aggressive acting out of cruel, self-serving, dishonest malice. It 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA
who risk themselves and their personal advantages by aggressive goodness and positive assertion. What happens when you 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA
the appropriate act will flow. The positive, energetic, aggressive movement will replace childish and destructive rebellion and 245 CAUSE AND EFFECT ON VARIOUS LEVELS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
angry and to express my energies in an aggressive way, for all aggression must be bad. I 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY
secrecy. They may merely mean that hostile and aggressive motives supersede secrecy. The new man and the 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY
to negative influences without using any of your aggressive aspects to either dispel them or to assert 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION
to the next step and visualize putting your aggressive forces into the service of positive aims. You 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION
 
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withdraws into a shell of isolation, or who aggressively antagonizes people, shows an unhealthy, uncaring, false independence 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
hostile -- perhaps again unconsciously. When you are aggressively arrogant, denying your own need to find love 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
aspects that respond to it need to be aggressively activated by your dedication to your path, by 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION
 
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for it -- self-punishment or a form of aggressiveness toward others, punishing them by one's own unhappiness 52 THE GOD-IMAGE
growing child in you keeps producing hostility and aggressiveness, even if ever so subtly, when it feels 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
pseudo-positive emotions, they will manufacture a hardness and aggressiveness inside themselves that is no more real than 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT
solution of life's problems. The attitudes of submissiveness, aggressiveness, and withdrawal are the distortions of love, power 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
their pride; they may be proud of their aggressiveness and cynicism, but once they have seen it 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
self-assertive qualities that smolder underneath. Power drive and aggressiveness can manifest in many ways and in many 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
this in the last lecture. These tendencies include aggressiveness, hostility, power drive, a need to triumph over 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
quest for power may predominate without any apparent aggressiveness or hostility. The possibilities are manifold. Integration and 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
a quest for power, with all its demands, aggressiveness, and power drive. The psyche thinks: If I 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
and, if need be, to adopt a healthy aggressiveness, which is altogether different from the distorted one 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
care of. When you find manifest rebellion and aggressiveness, a drive for overindependence, try to find deep 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
definite individual negative emotions, such as hostility, resentment, aggressiveness, and envy, but also certain psychological conditions. It 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
In this category belong the attitudes of submissiveness, aggressiveness, and withdrawal. These three aspects, as well as 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
the pull into the opposite direction of arrogant aggressiveness and superiority. Whether you manifest it outwardly, or 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
it outwardly, or whether it smolders hidden, your aggressiveness has its effect on others. However, you confuse 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
of your denial and shame of them. Your aggressiveness is a defense, not so much against outer 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
Only by accepting your human limitations will the aggressiveness and hostility vanish; because underneath you will discover 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
the hard and much more unpleasant feelings of aggressiveness. Once you become aware of the hurt, which 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
it has disappeared. Accept also your still existing aggressiveness, asking yourself whether it is not a distortion 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
that says that you already should not have aggressiveness. Do you understand that? QUESTIONER: Yes. QUESTION: Isn't 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
unreal situation. You choose either the pseudo-solution of aggressiveness, or withdrawal from life, or appeasement, which robs 101 THE DEFENSE
other people. But whether the defense is outer aggressiveness or withdrawal and flight, both are equally damaging 101 THE DEFENSE
a martyr. There exists a proper and healthy aggressiveness and assertiveness. When aggressiveness is healthy and when 101 THE DEFENSE
a proper and healthy aggressiveness and assertiveness. When aggressiveness is healthy and when not cannot be determined 101 THE DEFENSE
in a double bind. The real, healthy male aggressiveness is confused with hostility for which he feels 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
man feels guilty about expressing his healthy, masculine aggressiveness, confusing it with unhealthy, hostile aggressiveness. He finds 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
healthy, masculine aggressiveness, confusing it with unhealthy, hostile aggressiveness. He finds himself in the following predicament and 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
unpleasant results of his weakness. Or, he expresses aggressiveness, and because he vaguely feels that this is 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
the expression of self-assertion -- independence, natural healthy aggressiveness -- problematic because his own attitude toward it 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
resentments -- the result of suppressing his natural aggressiveness -- now mingle with the confusion. He no 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
denied their original need to express natural masculine aggressiveness, out of ignorance that it is a healthy 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
it is a healthy need. When you give aggressiveness a right to exist, you will have no 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
be demonstrating healthy assertion without deviating into unhealthy aggressiveness or hostility. Nor will you be confused between 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF

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