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| truth than telling you something according to your expectancy. And you have the means at your disposal | 24 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| be loved with all our faults? ANSWER: The expectancy of love may be a hindrance to having | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| the liabilities of a younger soul. The maximum expectancy according to the overall development determines the length | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| reality. Coming face to face with the inner expectancy of ending up as a loser one way | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| a patient letting go and a waiting, trusting expectancy. You have to find the right answers and | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| to feel into. There must be a positive expectancy that is yet free from preconceived notions of | 224 CREATIVE EMPTINESS |
| this, in a spirit of patient, persevering, positive expectancy, yet empty in mind and soul, a new | 224 CREATIVE EMPTINESS |
| Very soon, in this attitude of welcoming, positive expectancy, you can express the same strength in the | 235 THE ANATOMY OF CONTRACTION |
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| kindly repeat what you have said previously about expectation, especially in the form of positive thinking as | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| have accepted them. QUESTION: In other words, one's expectation of failure or success in an undertaking has | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| to self- indulgence, rejection of self-responsibility, and the expectation that God will indulge and pamper you. Now | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| pleasure. In fact, this would be a dangerous expectation, since it approaches so very much the unhealthy | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| not accept you, or acts contrary to your expectation, this in itself is not a threat. Neither | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| You will be surprised how great and beyond expectation the extent of this conflict is. Each time | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| they do expect it. Since the childish, unconscious expectation was so often disappointed, they made themselves give | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| you proceed properly your difficulties will cease. That expectation is, of course, utterly unrealistic and wrong as | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| of perfectionism about your spiritual growth. Your unconscious expectation is complete perfection, and not step-by-step growth. You | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| human limitations; you have to dispense with the expectation that you, as well as others, should always | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| immediately replace the old destructive ones. Such an expectation is unrealistic and not according to truth. Constructive | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| no longer present, the unrealistic, although often unconscious expectation exists that now life will always grant you | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| experience is lost again. Instead, there is an expectation and therefore a striving away from what is | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| own mistakes. It makes him give up the expectation of being rewarded for being obedient to rules | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| suffering for yourself. But your conscious or unconscious expectation that life should be perfect, causes you to | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| hand, you may be too modest in your expectation. This is a logical consequence that occurs automatically | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| part of the psyche. It is an unrealistic expectation that when the new is built, the old | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| of loving with a positive, benign concept and expectation of life on the other. Even when you | 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY |
| the emotions, attitudes, and concepts form a specific expectation of life and create a specific emotional climate | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| it. People often set out with the wrong expectation. They believe that when they come in touch | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| accept yourself. By the unpronounced but nevertheless distinct expectation that you must first be different, so that | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| may lie in emotional attitudes, such as an expectation to get more than one is willing to | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| can let go in a spirit of trusting expectation, your necessary momentary loss will soon turn out | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| as a direct manifestation of your work, the expectation becomes frustrating and discouraging. It is important, my | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| say that the misguided focusing on this limited expectation of life is a trick of the human | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| bring forth to the exact degree of your expectation and concept is proof of its limitless power | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| already mentioned how your consciousness, your concept and expectation of life, directly influence life's manifestation. When you | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| that it brings forth exactly according to your expectation, attitude, and concept. The firmer this conviction becomes | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| happy. You will see that your concept and expectation of life in this area is positive. This | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| also an element of spite in this negative expectation of life, as if you wanted to accuse | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| ingrained. You must break the habit of negative expectation over and over. You will probably experience something | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| what you can never be, because if your expectation is to destroy or magically whisk away a | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| their immense surprise the contrary of their apprehensive expectation: their self-respect and self- liking will increase. So | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| brings hope -- not false hope, but realistic expectation. You pin so much on false hopes, my | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| trust and the necessary climate of unpressured positive expectation cannot exist. And if it does not exist | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| resent it and make the changes in the expectation of pleasing the parental authority who is supposed | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| from any must, do not refer to an expectation of external forces. Rather I am referring to | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| the bridge to a state of genuinely positive expectation of life, where there is no pressure, no | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| to travel, the road of defeatism, denial, negative expectation, or the road of faith in the beautiful | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| established by risking giving out, in the conscious expectation that abundance will grow because the fear of | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
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| one who will then feel free of your expectations and not be forced or burdened in any | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| are contrary to one's dearest and most cherished expectations. For example, a child lives with the idea | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| authority, to your parents, to your fears and expectations. Out of these reactions you will gradually discover | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| and you turn away from God altogether. The expectations you have of this god you also project | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| counteracted by the need to comply with the expectations of a particular environment. Thereby each trend presents | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| a particular environment. Thereby each trend presents the expectations of that environment, thus presenting a double problem | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| situations. You will not be rigid in your expectations, or disappointed when things turn out differently from | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| how you deviate from it by your unspoken expectations and demands. If you are truly honest with | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| the other person will live up to your expectations. Hence you vaguely feel that you do not | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| often disappointed, they made themselves give up all expectations and all desire for love. Needless to say | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| that it is impossible to gratify such excessive expectations on this earth given the reality that humankind | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| idealized self. Only after fully seeing these fantastic expectations and their often contradictory imperatives will you relinquish | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| others do not abide by these rules and expectations, the hoped-for and carefully planned safety crumbles. Besides | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| not lived up to. It shows in certain expectations of the self and others. But all this | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| change. You will, for instance, find what your expectations really are, how you inwardly complain. You will | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| what you yourself could do to make these expectations a reality, and you will understand why you | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| idealized self-image, and with the excessive demands and expectations you have of yourself -- and therefore of | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| others. But we have not discussed such perfectionistic expectations from a moralistic viewpoint. For if you expect | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| many a depression and despair is based on expectations of yourself that are impossible to attain. Let | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| that you are living up to your own expectations. They make the world seem good and right | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| insecure. You can be secure only when your expectations accord with what is feasible. In other words | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| to find out about where you harbor superhuman expectations, standards you cannot really live up to in | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| their fellow-creatures. This becomes evident if the unspoken expectations, the meaning of emotional reactions, are investigated and | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| used, that of living up to other people's expectations, either out of a need to impress, or | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| to have it all the time yet. Such expectations will have a very negative effect. QUESTION: But | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| be more specific, I may add that unconscious expectations, claims and demands cause havoc in relationships. This | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| havoc in relationships. This is not because all expectations are necessarily wrong, but because they smolder underground | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| they come to your surface awareness, even justified expectations will cause problems for you because of your | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| and transform the unreasonable greed of your childish expectations, you will become perfectly capable of coping very | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| and productive in any given instance to have expectations, and therefore to let go of yourself. Basically | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| of yourself as you compromise and renounce your expectations. Or, do you subtly feel that life should | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| discrepancies and contradictions, as well as your immature expectations. The more clearly you see how you push | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| healthy areas vastly differ from your feelings and expectations in the unfulfilled areas. Making such a comparison | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| could not see beyond them. One's concept and expectations of life are fences around the possibilities of | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| or not it seems to conform with outer expectations, rules, and values. As long as you are | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| any demands; it does not hold any fearsome expectations or obligations. It is also true that when | 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY |
| natural law as opposed to complying with the expectations of the people around me? ANSWER: You forsake | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| fact. You must all recognize that you place expectations and make demands on others which no one | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| existing conditions produced by yourself that make such expectations of perfect relationships logically impossible. However, quite apart | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| important point: Do not be misled by limited expectations of possible alternatives. It is so important to | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| yourself because your standards, your demands, and your expectations of yourself are unrealistic, it is absolutely unthinkable | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| others, with its inevitable resentments arising from unfulfilled expectations; fear and the consequent defenses that cut you | 200 THE COSMIC FEELING |
| give up your illusions about yourself and your expectations -- which come from your resistance to giving | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| temporarily put aside your ego, your own needs, expectations, and personal preoccupations to make yourself empty. Then | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| want to run from it because of your expectations from and demands on it, as well as | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| unfolds completely independent of your mind and conscious expectations. Such a plan fulfills itself in certain stages | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| you can point out the fallacies, misconceptions distorted expectations, illusory aims and negative feelings within you and | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| ways. It depends on the consciousness, on the expectations and outlook of the individual in question. QUESTION | 230 THE UNIVERSALITY OF CHANGE -- REINCARNATIVE PROCESS IN THE SAME LIFE SPAN |
| and directions you subtly focus on secret, semi-conscious expectations and concerns about what will I be thought | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| something that can never live up to your expectations. Perhaps even more insidious and painful is the | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| and forbidden desires which you thought were the expectations of the greedy little child turn out to | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| be free to a considerable degree of unrealistic expectations. Your gaze has to be clear and undistorted | 254 SURRENDER |
| never be undertaken in an attitude of immediate expectations. In fact, it is necessary to have no | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |
| In fact, it is necessary to have no expectations whatever: expectations create tension, and tension prevents the | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |
| it is necessary to have no expectations whatever: expectations create tension, and tension prevents the necessary state | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |
| state of total inner and outer relaxation. Also, expectations are unrealistic, for it may take many incarnations | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |
| these experiences. So to have any kind of expectations will cause disappointments which, in turn, set off | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |