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justice. Thus, the fear is actually about being helplessly exposed to an evil force and not so 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS
if you resent another person and you are helplessly caught in the resentment. Your emotions become so 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT
produce other destructive patterns. Or, if you continued helplessly in the pattern despite the given promise, you 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
before you can recognize the predicament of feeling helplessly trapped between the only two dissatisfying alternatives you 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
real self. My dear friends, whenever you are helplessly trapped in a situation in which all available 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
life and fate and unalterable circumstances. Then you helplessly await fate's favor, and if it fails to 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
you wish to remain the child who waits helplessly for life to fulfill its needs without the 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
their own resources. Mature adults do not wait helplessly to be loved, however. Love comes to them 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
you fear you may not be liked and helplessly hope that perhaps you might be. Meanwhile, what 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
you may not succeed in a venture, passively, helplessly waiting for fate to determine the desired outcome 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
to life, you will say yes. Instead of helplessly waiting for others, or fate, or life, to 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
brings incredible liberation from guilt, unhappiness, frustration, from helplessly waiting for something that others can never provide 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
quite clear. Children who feel hurt, rejected, and helplessly exposed to pain and deprivation often find that 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL
mysterious and random fate to which one was helplessly exposed, over which one had no control, becomes 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL
of feelings. The fear that you will be helplessly swept away by your feelings, once they become 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL
in a truly deep way, without rendering you helplessly dependent on anyone else. Thus you avoid a 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION
grows to the extent he feels victimized and helplessly entrapped in his own prison. His reason for 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE
all of your destructive aspects and were therefore helplessly controlled by them, indicating that you believed them 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS
 
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I could at least avoid the humiliation, the helplessness, and the degradation of being punished by forces 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE
a terribly high and unnecessary price in unhappiness, helplessness, and hopelessness. To be adult in the true 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS
As a child, the human being encounters disappointment, helplessness, and rejection -- both real and imagined. These 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
last analysis, such people claim an imperfection, a helplessness, a submissiveness that are not genuine. They use 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
such domination must always manifest in soft, weak helplessness. It is no wonder that a person engulfed 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
types who glorify failure, because it proves their helplessness and forces others to give them love and 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
pseudo-solution, the quest for love, predominate, vulnerability and helplessness increase until the soul is actually endangered. The 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
the main image, is always the feeling of helplessness in the face of a difficulty that the 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
hostile, dangerous world, but also cover up the helplessness of having to adopt rules one inwardly rebels 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
this yoke. So you see how the basic helplessness links the God-image and the idealized self-image, creating 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
and dependent attitude. False religion encouraged fear, dependency, helplessness, and a humiliating, though often very subtle, tendency 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
may be certain that fear, cringing appeasement, and helplessness also exist, though hidden from awareness. The shame 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
appeasement, try to find not only the clinging helplessness, but also the hidden resentment that God has 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
blind obedience. Both causes produce personalities distorted by helplessness, false goodness, and appeasement; or overindependence, rebellion, and 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
and hostility; in the other, you hide the helplessness and desire for protection, the tendency to appease 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
not only fail to eliminate your self- imposed helplessness, you encourage it, as well as encouraging false 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
goal. Take any negative emotion: envy, bitterness, fear, helplessness -- and most indicative of all, self-pity. Once 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
that it is responsible for your weakness, your helplessness, your enduring fear of life. But you combat 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
a benign circle, negative emotions such as self-pity, helplessness, hostility, guilt, and resentment are bound to decrease 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
gratifications. This then causes the neurotic symptoms of helplessness, dependency, inability to make a choice, and of 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
hope for life to offer a solution. This helplessness and weakness points to the immature, distorted part 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
are trapped in the crisis of confusion and helplessness, you are bound to find that there is 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
outside your control. Wherever such a state of helplessness exists, there must be an underlying problem, an 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
problem. Any way you wish to formulate it, helplessness, powerlessness, paralysis of your faculties are the results 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
person ask where there may be feelings of helplessness, weakness, self-pity, of being subjected to the misery 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
little later. If your pseudo-solution is submissiveness, weakness, helplessness and dependency as a means of having someone 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
a solution. Dependency on others creates fear and helplessness. It further diminishes your lack of belief in 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
see a way out, and thereby decrease your helplessness and increase your independent strength and resourcefulness. In 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
the frustration of the accumulated pressure, the momentary helplessness about finding relief, the temptation to evade yet 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
all the accumulated inner pressure, with the accompanying helplessness, inadequacy, and confusion, is the final result. It 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
mind, the immaturity and inadequacy cause fear, clinging, helplessness, dependence; when wishful-thinking and greed, unacceptance of reality 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
is answered, he will lose the sense of helplessness and of the arbitrariness of a willful God 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
why depression is always linked with frustration and helplessness. For, strangely enough, you do not feel helpless 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
will swamp you with all the despair of helplessness and insecurity you had never dared to face 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
Because the psychic forces have tended toward deliberate helplessness, the ego has remained weak and therefore now 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
the one hand, you are afraid of your helplessness and do not give yourself the chance not 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
helpless, nor to test whether or not your helplessness is real. On the other, you are afraid 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
you persevere, you will find your fear of helplessness, since you also fear knowing that you need 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
correct? ANSWER: It is absolutely correct. The child's helplessness and insecurity makes him strive desperately for acceptance 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
she feels passive and helpless. The passivity and helplessness, as an aspect of femininity, is then felt 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
fears and associates with a state of humiliating helplessness. She erroneously feels that being hurt and being 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
a different angle. A woman fears the apparent helplessness of giving herself up, of surrendering herself. She 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
yearns for. When a woman refuses the apparent helplessness of self-surrender by exerting an artificial and unhealthy 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
are man or woman, you fear the apparent helplessness -- and therefore shame -- of giving over 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
then look at the causes of your own helplessness. Attaching the fear, or other negative emotions, to 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
have progressed, you there still maintain an imagined helplessness toward living, growing, and toward what life is 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
connection, that you discover (a) the feeling of helplessness, vague hope and fear that something should or 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
you are suppressing or repressing your negative, destructive helplessness. Repression is merely another word for deception. But 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
foolishness and most certainly, it does not create helplessness in the face of abuse. Quite the contrary 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
and inner self. All suffering is related to helplessness. The greater the helplessness, the less the person 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL
suffering is related to helplessness. The greater the helplessness, the less the person is able to avoid 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL
the numbing process, of weakening its impact. The helplessness continues to exist in adults whose psyches have 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL
are always marked by this feeling of utter helplessness, while in the healthy areas this feeling is 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL
this feeling is absent. It is obvious that helplessness and lack of control are very much connected 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL
lack of control are very much connected. Since helplessness causes pain, pain causes numbness, and numbness leads 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL
also connected with evil. On a broader scale, helplessness is one of humanity's greatest problems. The significance 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL
your negativity and thereby compounding fear, guilt, and helplessness. When you let your destructiveness control you, you 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF
is possibly a wrong conclusion. The feeling of helplessness or powerlessness is again the self-perpetuating principle at 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN
helpless and powerless. In reality, your weakness and helplessness is never due to the stronger will of 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN
whether you remain in a vague climate of helplessness and hopelessness, or whether you decide to clarify 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO
the desirable alternative of the two opposites. The helplessness and hopelessness, the wasted energy of the dualistic 143 UNITY AND DUALITY
of passivity. For the passive state then implies helplessness. The passive state must imply helplessness when activity 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY
then implies helplessness. The passive state must imply helplessness when activity is rejected, feared, and avoided, for 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY
activity is rejected, feared, and avoided, for then helplessness is a natural sequence, a direct result. If 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY
of love, resulting in increasing feelings of emptiness, helplessness, despair, and isolation. You then try to counteract 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY
same token, passivity will hold no threat of helplessness, since you trust yourself and life. All this 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY
dependency and lack of identity, of weakness and helplessness, because he or she feels remotely as though 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION
with the person one is dependent on; weakness, helplessness, false humility -- therefore rage, anger, rebellion. The 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS
violent rage, there is the feeling of absolute helplessness -- first toward the world that seems to 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING
to experience the pain, agony, anger, violence and helplessness, you will truly come to see that it 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING
not wish to know it. In such confusion, helplessness increases, the thus mounting inner tension seeks an 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING
principle or femininity is often wrongly associated with helplessness, passivity, and inferiority, while the masculine principle or 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
denial of fulfillment. I have already mentioned the helplessness. I mentioned the frictions and constrictions when the 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS
out of misconception leads to a feeling of helplessness and the passivity that prevents the individual from 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS
what she or he needs and wants. The helplessness and the feeling of being victimized are themselves 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS
fate. We can dwell in self-pity, resentments, and helplessness and thus increase our weakness, paralysis, dependence, and 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS
but where the blocks, the blindness, the imagined helplessness persist, you cannot contact your universal self. 3 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION
difficulty has been recognized you experience an unconscious helplessness and a sense of limitation. Then you become 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS
growth, each victory over conflict, confusion, ignorance and helplessness, represent a new skill and mastery over life 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS
commitment to find a new mastery over present helplessness and constriction, a commitment to life itself. The 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS
makes the difference between suffering and peace, between helplessness and self-determination, between infantile dependency -- be it 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE
to go into the abyss of fright, loneliness, helplessness, pain, and the anger generated by the suffering 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS
more comprehensive vision eliminates the fallacy of human helplessness. The truth leads people to assume self-responsibility in 193 RÉSUMÉ OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE PATHWORK: ITS AIM AND PROCESS
Your confusion will first breed a sense of helplessness and injustice. If you are not aware that 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT
always hoping that your resentful, blaming self-pity and helplessness will convince life, others, fate, to give you 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT
actual good intent, as well as behind apparent helplessness. The attitude of I cannot help but feel 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY
of your disconnection is your growing feeling of helplessness and powerlessness: dependency on others, with its inevitable 200 THE COSMIC FEELING
are caught in a battle of blame, self-justification, helplessness, self-rejection and self- doubt. You cannot help but 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY
the inner process of self-creation. The feeling of helplessness is overwhelming at this stage. Only when you 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD
I have taught you how to experience pain, helplessness, rage. I have helped you to see and 246 TRADITION: ITS DIVINE AND DISTORTED ASPECTS

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